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May 06
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Thanks guys for the helpful comments.
I have just been asked how my day has been!!! I said apart from meeting her at mediation it was great. Can't talk to her anymore about this, it makes me too angry. I really don't think she has the first idea of what is happening. Even her mother thinks she is losing it. This is according to my mother who has spoken to hers on the phone - almost the first contact since the children were born.
She needs a shrink not a solicitor or mediator.
But did have a good time playing 'vollyball' with the children this evening. I think the children really enjoy this as it never seems to happen with their mother. She obviously felt left out as she keep appearing with odd, rather irrelevant questions for the children. I will miss all this if I can only see them one a fortnight, how can she say that this is best for the children and will mean they are less confused by the different living arrangements. Children are remarkably adaptable but I now feel she is telling them all sorts of untruths about me to suit her cause (whatever that may be).
Lets hope her solicitor can get her to see sense. I won't count any chickens.
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spell
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| May 08, 2008 | ||
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however heated the problems between you get Alan I dont believe she should involve the children, it is counterproductive and wrong. You obviously get a lot of pleasure from being with your kids and I pity you if your stbx is using them to get at you, shame on her Alan. Try to rise above it. spellx |
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Alan333
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| May 08, 2008 | ||
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Hi Alan ,thanks for your comments on my blog. Like you ,my wife has become very unstable,she also can't see what she is doing.To me and my daughter.She talks to me in one way,my daughter in another and the postman in another.who are we living with...?errrr. It is wrong to set children against the other parent. It is hard to see this change in our partners.Just to think that once we were in love with them very deeply. When I came to this site 4 months ago,people on here said that in time things would change..I was so angry with the situation I could not believe what people were telling me. Somehow though we have to find a different view point to see the bigger picture.And when we do,we know our lives can never be the same again and then the hurting does not hurt so much. What I found out is that there is another side to me that had been locked away for 25 years.A nice part of me that is relaxed and peaceful.Not trying to juggle the daily life of money and time.Your children will come to like the new dad that is happier..just you wait and see.. good luck alan.. go and count some chickens,Great fun you know. |
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| May 09, 2008 | ||
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I think divorce and the pain it brings does make you emerge a different or should i say back to your old self person. Sadely this is the person that my ex2b married and loved.Shame he didnt see what his abuse did. Take care x |
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