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May 06
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Bank HolidayPosted by robmcd in her new man, accepting its over |
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So after months of using wiki I find myself writing a blog. So what's changed - I've been much happier since my x2b is no longer in the same house as me even though there appears to be a new (boy) friend on the scene!
Yesterday my 7 year old told me about visiting some friends for a BBQ with her sister, mum, mum's (boy) friend and his daughter. They'd gone to visit some friends of my x2b and myself that I'm still quite friendly with.
It struck me that my children have moved away from me slightly - they now have new (boy) friend as a substitute for dad when they a re not with me!
I guess I never really thought about this before but the thought of my kids living in a house with a different bloke makes me feel a little sad and a little sick in the stomach. I was not ready for this even though x2b is a faded memory.
I guess it had to happen someday and maybe that's the reason I hung on to a crap marriage for so long.
Thanks for listening.
Rob
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rosiegirl
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Glad to hear you are a bit happier Rob. Stopping sharing the space with the ex does make a difference doesn't it. I understand that sick feeling in the stomach. The first time my children went out with the ex, his girlfriend and her children for a "family" day out was really hard. So were the times when he and her took them to things I had been planning to take them too. All I can say is that cliche...it does get easier with time. All the best Rosie |
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IKNOWNOW
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Hey Rob, glad you felt ready to blog. You have been a happier member of wiki in recent weeks and that has to be a positive thing. As for the new boyfriend, yes it hurts, I hate that this other woman is playing happy families with my children. I guess it is generally worse for the bloke on the whole because the boyfriend will be a big part of their life. Just remember Rob, you and only you, are their dad and always will be. Just stay strong babe and enjoy the time you spend with the girls, they will cherish their times with you. xx Sarah xx |
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Shezi79
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Hi Rob A lot of us have been there... worried over being replaced and no longer needed etc. I was desperate to see my ex move on because then maybe he would stop the hostility games but when it comes to it and see them playing happy families with someone else... it's gut-wrenching. Hang in there honey, be thankful that children are very resilient and be reassured by the fact that they know who their dad is and he will never be replaced. Incidentally, mine are now in their 20s (they were 1 and 3 when we split) and they have some interesting stories to tell about dad's new wife  Take care Rob Shez |
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gorgeous
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U will always be there dad no wories  It worries me that so soon there is a man on the scene and introduced to friends.I feel thats risky hope this is a long term thing. If you r on speaking terms then id ask her tomake sure you dont want a series of men influencing their lives. Take care |
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