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Feb 04
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This divorce is still dragging on, with my stbx taking his time with the paperwork. The house is on the market, and has had 4 viewers, and a very low offer, which is just what I want. I don't want a decent offer, not yet, because I don't need the stress of trying to speed my ex into a settlement so that we are free to sell the house. I know he will try to speed me into a sale without a settlement. He has already told me so. I plan to resist him, but would so prefer not having to fight that fight.
I hate this though - the divorce, the house sale. Added pressures to a pressured life. And though I know both will end, they could both drag on. I mostly cope with it, but have days when tears are near the surface. I can so understand women who say to me that they took a bad deal, just to end the process, and I am scared that I will be the same if tested in that way.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, but I am sick of walking through this dark cobwebby tunnel.
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Stingrayj
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| February 05, 2012 | ||
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(((((Hoping))))) It is very wearing all this mess. I guess its their way of hoping we will give up for what is fair. Mine will not acknowledge any papers, so is deliberately holding up the process. Added to that he gives no money at all for last three months. I have no idea what Will happen to my daughter and I. I've put the For Sale sign up on house and hope that someone will make an offer, problem being I have no doubt he will refuse and say its too low. Stay strong and dont give into him! Hopefully the end will come for us x |
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ascatfish
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| February 05, 2012 | ||
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I think mine will do the same. unfortunately his behaviour and treatment of me has activated my stubborn gene and im not giving in on anything important now. stand up tall and if you feel like giving in, think about how you feel about yourself five years down the line - will you be annoyed you gave in or will you still think it was worth it - and go with your gut on whether or not its important  thats what I intend to do |
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patti.p
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| February 05, 2012 | ||
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Im the third one stuck in the same position, he wants it sold asap so that he can spend his mtg money on the trollop. But I am stubborn as well, so as long as I can pay then Ill try to stay. Just remember, you only have one chance to be strong, so don't let him railroad you if poss. Think about what you want for the future and try to get it. He wont be thinking of your needs so you have to think of YOU. Stay strong, well be there for you xx |
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tinkerbell1606
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| February 05, 2012 | ||
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Joining in, another situation the same! My lawyer has resisted putting the FMH on the market so far, but on Friday my barrister advised that I should do so as soon as spring arrives, contradicting my lawyer entirely. I so totally relate to how youre feeling, but hold fast. These bullies are expecting us to crumble, its what they are used to. Wear you down, until they get what they want. Dont give up, and dont give in. Take care of yourself and smile, eat well and try to sleep well, but essentially hold out for what is best for you. Dont give up!!! |
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