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Jan 29
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it was one of my son's birthday. I checked my phone to make sure there were no texts from other parents re his party & saw a text from the ex who I last saw lunchtime on Fri - when due to his behaviour I said he had to do future contact re kids through solicitors as he should have been doing since Jul anyway. He's sent this text on Fri at 5pm basically telling me a film we had watched together in bed years ago is on sale on the web. i sent one back saying "thanks for thinking of me" then sat down and cried. What is that all about? I pull away - he pushes back? testing the no contact rule? Its the first "nice" text he has set since we split except for one wishing me Happy Birthday. Emotional anyway due to the birthday it really shook me up. The last 4 contacts ive had with him I've just felt the misery from him. I ignore it because its his bed he made it and he can lie in it . I just want him to stop peeing about now. Step up to the mark with the kids or go away totally, completely. I'm done.
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caz2011
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| January 30, 2012 | ||
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Good for you hun think hes playing mind games with u , wish i was at the point you are at, thats why i aint been in chat a while trying to cope with it myself just cant stop thinking of him fall asleep, dream and wake its so hard. Any sounds like the bairn had a lovelly bday xx | |
Patrick1968
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| January 30, 2012 | ||
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The correct return text would have been a) So or not to return a text. He's messing wit you becuase he can. |
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mumtoboys
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| January 30, 2012 | ||
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Nooooooo! Don't respond! this is my 'cast aside, reel back in' game that I always go on about. He's feeling sorry for himself for whatever reason. He's 'testing the water', he's trying to work out whether you still care at some level, perhaps whether or not he could come back - this is the reeling in bit. The minute you show him that you might possibly maybe still give a damn, you'll be cast aside. This games plays itself round and round in circles till you get the hang of it. I'm now over 12 months and counting on this cycle but in the early days, a cycle could play itself out in a matter of hours. PS At least you know you're doing a good job of getting on with your life if he's that bothered about finding out if you still recognise joint or shared items/things. Good for you! |
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ascatfish
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| January 30, 2012 | ||
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I have to sat the main reason i responded is cos I knew if OW checked his texts what I said would wind her up. If he wanted to win me back he;d have to work a darn sight harder than that - like completely turn his life around. Not. Going. to. happen  |
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carlykav
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| January 30, 2012 | ||
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ascatfish (hugs) Hope the party went well. Hope the OW read the text!  Hope more she also went into his sent box! But i bet he's still hiding his phone! Take care - his loss! |
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