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Jan 24
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RebuildingPosted by ascatfish in planning my new life, moving on, dealing with emotions, being single |
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Today has been a day where overall I have restocked and fixed and sorted things - some of which have been bothering me for quite a while.
Yesterday I got a text from the ex saying he wanted to see the kids. Im not sure what to respond yet so am thinking. he is supposed to see them in a contact centre, but threw his toys out of the pram. Me supervising is not ideal as he continues to be antagonistic and push my buttons, and though I am now on the road to emotional recovery, being around the person who murdered my marriage is not good. I don;t have that much self control, but he won't sort anything else out, and I don;t actually *want* to deprive my kids of their father no matter what he thinks.
So today, I reformatted my PVR as it was recording some programmes 4 times and others not at all (no idea what this means except I basically wiped the memory), glued a mobile back together, repaired a toy shopping trolley, chucked some more of Ex's stuff up the loft, cleared rubbish etc. Why do we collect do much detritus? A broken in half not working felt tip? REALLY? I'm a bit of a hoarder so sorting out any rubbish is good . I look at the kids toys though in horro - osrting those is going to be a nightmare !good. I look
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ascatfish
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| January 25, 2012 | ||
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Sorry about the mess of the last sentence - it wouldn't/wont let me see it to edit it : it should read "though in horror - sorting those is going to be a nightmare" | |
Deben27
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| January 25, 2012 | ||
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Good for you Ascatfish. Sometimes it's reallyy diffcult getting the motivation to move things forward, but the alternative it just stagnation. Now all I need to do is to do exactly that, move it forward..... but it's a toughie | |
patti.p
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| January 25, 2012 | ||
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Asco, Youve done so, so well lately, especially booking that holiday alone! I cant imagine all the logistics that required... I know it's been tough with *his* issues regarding the kids, trying to get to see them, being generally difficult & a pain in the a@@, but you aren't wasting time moping- Im so glad that your'e doing some spring (thinking ahead, lol) cleaning. I hope that it takes your mind off things at least for a bit. Last week I decided to clear all of the H's things from the bathroom, put a candle in there, I am now going to paint the walls, why not. It gives me a break from dwelling on my life, at least for a bit. I know it's hard to feel motivated or positive, but seems like you are, that's good! I hope that this feeling continues. And good on you for putting his stuff in the loft, Id be tempted to put it on the street but I have always been cruel  >: Good on you, asco xx |
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ascatfish
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| January 25, 2012 | ||
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Oh he's threatened to do me "for theft" if i dispose of it. I won't let him collect it, because not only does he owe me thousands in unpaid child maintenance but he was also to supposed to clear his electrical waste from the side of our house when he left and didnt and I had to hire a skip which he hasnt compensated me for yet. So i'm hanging on to his stuff until either he pays up or I am ordered to give it to him, but i'm going to try and get the money im owed in the financial settlement. | |
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