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Jan 22
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We live in Seattle and my wife has always hated it here. She blames me for us coming (it was for my job) and she blames me for us staying (it's a very good job). She is so unhappy and is convinced that living near a warm beach will make her happy. I say no way, she is not likely to be happy anywhere. The thing is she wants us all to move. Not together mind you. Her with the kids. Me follow and get a place nearby so I can be close to the kids. I would have to quit and find another job to make this happen. Yes, my wife has not worked in 9 years. She is a smart and capable 42 year old woman so I am sure she can find work. So, I have checked with a lawyer and the way it works here is the court operates in the best interest of the kids. If the court thinks it would be in the best interest of the kids to move with their mom to California (new schools, no job, no support system at all) then she could go. If the court found that staying in Seattle with me was in the best interest of the kids (same schools, same friends, in tact support system) then they could stay here. I have not fought her on much but on this one I will have to. I just so strongly believe that it is best for them to stay here. I suppose she still might decide to stay here - she has good friends here - but she is so deeply unhappy and is convinced being here is part of that. Personally, I do not think she is capable of happiness... I will HATE taking her to court on this. I will hate, hate, hate it. But I will do it if I have to. Ugh.
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pixy
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| January 23, 2012 | ||
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You're right. She is looking for solutions to her unhappiness in external factors rather than within herself. Start building your case now, just in case. If it works anything like it does over here the courts will want to know how involved you are with the children, how you would manage job and child care etc. It might be a good idea to have a paper trail of requests for her to seek medical help/counselling. | |
ascotiel
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| January 23, 2012 | ||
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I'd also look into whether you could have custody of the children so that she can go to california if she wants to and the children stay with you where they have their support network etc. it may be a workable option for everyone . | |
Patrick1968
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| January 23, 2012 | ||
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Why will you hate going to court to fight for your children when its in their and your interests to do it. You have a right to hate her, I hate her and I've never met her. She's not a nice person, she may have been once but isn't now. Tell her she is NOT moving your children to California then start proceedings against that from happening. Then tell her you want to start divorce proceedings. | |
Canuck425
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| January 23, 2012 | ||
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I know and I will - Patrick. I won't let her take the kids to California, it just won't happen. We'll get divorced soon too. | |
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