...for this website. It is full of so much warmth and understanding. I read the blogs and posts and comments widely and often now. And the thing that keeps on coming through all this pain and sadness that every one here is forced to endure,  is the support, the empathy, the kindness, the generosity of spirit, and overall, the love, that everyone offers to each other here so freely, fluently and without reservation. It really brings tears to my eyes. Why can't our ex- and future ex- partners behave with a tiny fraction of the amount of decency exhibited continually on these extraodinary

Good and bad things to observe.

First, yesterday evening I had an impromptu night out myself! Just a drink or two with some friends - old and new - and some normal interesting social interaction with some people I'd not met before. It shouldn't make any difference, but I have to admit that it helped that one of them in particular was a completely and utterly gorgeous woman in her early 30's, who was giving me a lot of attention which I'm not particularly used to. 

Snuck home late - it was FXW's turn with the kids, so no issue there of course. 6.30 in the morning, my kids bounce downstairs to

This is an interesting one. Perhaps a turning point. She told me she was going out on Saturday night and was staying out until Sunday evening. I don't know who she stayed with - I actually don't care - but what's interesting is that she's not keeping up any pretence any more. Probably quite healthy.

And this evening on her return, she seemed a little less uptight. I think that because we've given up on mediation, which means that there's no forum for her to plan personal attacks on me other than by costly solicitor's letter, she's less hostile. For example, when I adjusted the schedule on the