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Mar 31
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I haven't blogged for a few days, I have had alot going on...
Sunday I came onto wiki & poured my heart out in the chat room. About how I have been covering up the bad things up in my life, By pretending it isn't really happening :( A special thks to Fat Boy Getting Slim & the others who comforted me & gave there words of comfort, suport & advise. I have decided to write about my life on wordpad, It's going to take me ages & i'm hoping it might give me some insight why I deal with certain situtions the way I do & why i'm so unjustly harsh on myself. I doubt tht i'd blog tht as some of it is really hurtfull to write. ( lesson learnt be honest with myself & tht i'm NOT responsible for the wrong others have done )
As my days are going on frm finding out tht my stbx is indeed with another woman & won't be returning home. My thoughts have become more focused & positive, as before I was beating myself up wondering why & what did I do wrong. I have done nothing wrong
Today I found out tht my daughter walked out on her job 3 weeks ago. She was worried about telling me & she kept it to herself by making out she was actually going to work. When infact she had been sitting in the park. The reason she left was tht she felt asthough she was being bullied in the workplace, even the bosses had bets on who would leave between my daughter & this lad tht worked there. I know this is correct as I have spoken to my daughters work collegues/friends.
I'm glad tht she has told me, 2moz we are both going job hunting together :)
stbx is being a utter twonk again by not returning my calls ~sighs~ Ooh well I have nothing to thk him for & the kids & I will get through this without him
Ending on a positive note
I got 3 certificates today frm this course (A4e) tht im attending to help me seek employment :-)
Certifiacte 1 is Certificate of training - positive steps through A4e that was for my efforts in
*confidence buliding & maintaining motivation
* Team buliding
*Decision making
*Assertiveness
Certificate 2 is Certificate of training - positive steps into work key skills through A4e tht was for my efforts in
* How to create a professional CV
* How to effectively complete an application form
* Basic use of microsoft word
Certificate 3 Certificate of training - Interview techniques through A4e tht was for my efforts in
* Interview preperation
*what happens before, during & after interview
*how to conduct yourself
* personal presentation
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mike62
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Good for you Sanctuary! You have officially started your new life - and have certificates to prove it - Well done you! I hope that you are smiling, because you deserve to be. First steps on a long road. But you will make it. And show everyone else how well you are doing, and what a much better life you are enjoying. Really, really pleased for you, Mike | |
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marriaa
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| April 01, 2008 | ||
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you have turn the corner,be very proud of your acheivement,you can be made to feel guilty even though you are the innocent party but do not be the victim, WELL DONE!!! |
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alan670
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Good news Sanctuary and how lovely to have your daughter for company in your joint search. I am a natural optimist and I am certain that everything happens for a reason and if you are positive then without doubt something good will pop up for you. Enjoy life. (even the crappy bits !) |
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gorgeous
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| April 02, 2008 | ||
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Well done u! Its all going gr8keep smilingx  |
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mishmine
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hi linda, ive missed you lately in chat, and been worried about you, and im so happy that you are starting to see the positives again. do not beat yourself up for the things that people have done wrong, none of it is your fault. im glad you and your daughter have bonded again, and life is slowly improving for you. love u loads like you said to me love yourself. this is the begining for you get it all out then change the way you think about stuff much love mish x x |
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Sanctuary
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Thku very much to all you lovely people tht posted words of praise  And to mish, You are a very beautiful person & you to will get through all this, Keep thinking positive mish & I love you to x |
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Anuska
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Sanctuary, Proves you are moving forward and be proud of that as it's hard to do.If you've come this far already the light at the end of the tunnel is alot nearer than you think. You are doing so well. Am also happy that you realise you have done nothing wrong. It's so easy to blame oneself when things go wrong. Keep moving forward and don't look back.Anuska  |
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Fat Boy Getting Slimmer
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When you first become a parent you think it will all be perfect and that you will bring up a child who becomes and adult who is happy, satisfied and well balanced. The truth is that all the decisions we make involve some compromise. We haven't got limitless funs, time and emotional resources. And even if we did that may lead to other problems. So we can only make the best decision at the time from the situation we find ourselves in. So being a parent is full of guilt. If our little darling doesn't turn out to be perfect it is our fault! And of course it is not. You have provided only half the genes, broadly half of the emotional support and development and they make their won decisions. Sorry, Sanctuary, I have rambled. Basically, you have taken all these set backs and faults on to yourself. You haven't shared some because others will think badly of you. It sounds like you have lovely supportive children who have been very mature and helpful. Talk to them about some of the issues and they will help you through it. I hope the week gets better for you. You have had to face a lot of issues in one week and that cannot have been easy. Well done on your training steps, they sound very useful. (Can you look over my CV sometime?) Best Wishes FBGS P.S. Sorry I hadn't noticed earlier but hadn't checked out blogs for a few days. |
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