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Apr 24
2011
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Creating New MemoriesPosted by absolution in holidays, being single |
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I remember jjones 123 always talking about creating new memories and rewiring our brain so I chose Rome for a break for my daughter and I. Rome because it is one of the few places I hadn't been to with ex.
It is the first holiday we have been, just the two of us. It was very symbolic for me. I wanted to prove that we could do things on our own. Ex was the type who used to organise everything and do mapreading etc. We had a fabulous time.
At times it was hard being in such a beautiful and historical city surrounded by families, couples and lovers looking very much in love and happy. When we got back to Heathrow last night and as we came out where families meet you, I had a look round to see if he was there. Crazy, of course he wouldn't and I did feel kind of sad.
Sometimes I cope by pretending he is dead and to all intents and purposes he is to me. At other times I tell myself I am allowed to still love him, which I do, even though he doesn't love me anymore, and that is ok too.
I believe that if I just keep making these symbolic steps creating a life for myself then I will get there in the end.
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Mitchum
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Of course you will Absolution. I'm absolutely(no pun intended) delighted for you as that's the happiest blog I've read from you in a long time and I think it's fantastic. I'm so pleased for you both. New memories and photographs to replace the ones relegated to the past. You're blog has cheered me up! Love to you both Mitchum xox |
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ditchedagain11
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Hey im glad to here you had a nice time, and as for feeling sad when he wasnt there sooner or later you will give up thinking of him...its just a matter ofr building new memories now...you've already started and good on ya Hugs DA |
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jjones123
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Hi Abs, I'm glad you had a fabulous time. Taking a holiday is a big step, and now that you've done it, the next one will be better and you'll even have more fun. One thing to remember is that even though you may be surrounded by seemingly happy couples, you never know really how truly happy they are. I once went to Italy with my ex, and not longer after touchdown, I was being shouted at for not knowing what was going on or how everything worked (how could I know, I'm not Italian!  ) So, I'm beginning to take Sair's point... that there are some good things to emerge from being single, and being able to make decisions to do your own stuff is one of them. Best, JJ |
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robinson25
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Hi i too am going on holiday to turkey with my daughter this year.I am both nervous and excited at the same time. it will be funny just us girls going together and i think i will feel a little vunerable at times but as you say making new memories is a step we have to take, life is for living and we have to make the best of what we have.. Not all my memories of holidays with my stbx are happy , but isnt it strange how we seem to look thru rose tinted glasses and just remember the happy times!! anyway good for you and now its only onwards and upwards NOT BACKWARDS. | |
survive
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Well done to you. You must and should feel a great sense of achievement and empowerement. now you have done it once.... the world is your oyster so to speak. And yes, relish in the thought that you don't have to answer to anyone anymore. You can answer to you! Take Care Survive x |
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