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Mar 14
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StuffPosted by absolution in moving on, grief and loss |
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This is the fifth time I will be moving since separation in 2008; sometimes the stuff seems to be less and sometimes seems to have grown all by itself. But at the end of the day it is only stuff. I wish I could just leave it all behind and disappear.
Cos what I really want I can't have and going through all the stuff again just makes me sad. Some of the CD plastic covers have his writing on still and some are presents he bought for me for Christmas or Birthday. At the beginning I wanted to throw away all remainders but then stopped myself just in time, because to do that would be to erase a large part of my own life and history.
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ditchedagain11
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| March 14, 2011 | ||
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Hi, I'd get rid to be honest. You have been through enough upset and these items are hurting you everytime you see them. Its your choice though. I feel this way about fishing rods when they dont catch me fish...just wanna lob em lol Just think of yourself as the littlest hobbo right now. You move until you are happy (ok i know im daft). I had loads of posessions but its only 'stuff' and although now i have virtually nothing i dont really miss any of that. Number one priority for you is to make those tiny steps forward, and eliminate anything that makes you sad if you can. Lob that CD cover and make your own! I will be checking up on you lol Take Care, and keep your chin up DA  |
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absolution
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| March 14, 2011 | ||
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Nope sorry DA no popcorn maker but electric steamer and rice cooker going free if you want! Did chuck all the sexy Harley Davidson t shirts at the beginning cos that the bike was his thing! Abs |
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julesm
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Hi Abs I know exactly what you mean when you say "I wish I could just leave it all behind and disappear". If only eh? I have had to be pretty ruthless lately as I am a bit of a hoarder and find it hard to just throw stuff away. There comes a time though when you have to, especially if its anything of a sentimental nature or likely to make you sad. As DA has said, get rid. Best Wishes Jules |
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absolution
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Cheers Jules, you are both right. Are you feeling better by the way? Take care Abs |
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jjones123
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Hi Abs, As DA says, stuff is just stuff. The stuff that can't ever been thrown away is memories, and sometimes one does need a break from them so we can gain perspective. Even though I have got two suitcases filled with bits and pieces, I still forget where some of my things are! I blogged sometime ago about the day when I got rid of loads of letters, cards and correspondence. I've still got some more things to get rid of and I'm looking forwards since it will be yet another break from the past. You will never erase your life history but with distance (and by not being continually reminded through physical posessions), you may get to see things in another light. JJ x |
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hawaythelads
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| March 14, 2011 | ||
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Abs Blunt as feck and totally non poetic. Hun you need to build a bridge and get over it. All the best Pete xx |
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Kimmi
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| March 15, 2011 | ||
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Abs ((((hugs)))) Come on girl, you are so much stronger than this. Start looking for you, working for you, being true to you. You matter, he doesn't. You are special, he isn't. You are ABSOLUTION, he is NOTHING. Big up to you, but girl, this is your kick up the rear. You have to move on, and if you need me to, I will keep kicking you up the bum until you've moved past it. We love you Abs, and will be here for you whenever you need. Loads of love and hugs Kimmi xxxxx |
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