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Dec 02
2010
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6 Months LaterPosted by mike407 in my story, moving on, dealing with emotions |
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This week end with be 6 months since STBX said that she's leaving.
Today received the court signed consent order.
The Absolute must be on its way as well.
I'm nearly settled in my new place, just need to sort the heating out as some of the storage heaters don't work ( Landlord coming again on Saturday).
The boys visits are working well, but amazing how much they grow and how difficult it is to keep up with them as they expect you to know what they have been doing cause mum knows.
When the boys come over they always have old clothes on, but when I see the STBx she has new clothes. Now the consent order is signed off, I will start raising this issue.
The "darkeness" doesn't happean very often and try and manage it when does. Just sometimes it does beat me for a few hours, then read few blogs and realise that I'm really OK compare to others on here.
The hardest part still is the feeling of being alone and missing having some one to talk to. With the new self service/checkouts you don't even get to have a few words with the cashier.
Been looking but haven't found a evening class to go t. Most are on Wednesday but that is the evening that I have the boys, because the STBx is at college.
Managing to save enough on my budgets, to be able to take the boys away on camping holiday next summer.
Its a few weeks to Christmas and then days will be getting longer. I need to focus on using this time to clear my head and then use the longer days to build up my self up, so that I can enjoy the Spring and Summer.
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jjones123
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| December 02, 2010 | ||
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Hey Mike, glad you blogged... I was wondering how you were getting along. Best, JJ |
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startagain
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| December 02, 2010 | ||
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Hi Mike Like JJ I was wondering too. Glad things have settled. It has been 16 month since my ex wanted out and it is only now I have the time or the state of mind to hatch a plan! Take care |
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ditchedagain11
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| December 02, 2010 | ||
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that 'old clothes' thing is nothing new mate. ive had that for the past 8 years with my son...never changes regardless of me paying full CSA maintenance to her. Regarding getting your life back on track, meeting people, your here, on wiki and have all the support in the world, however have you considered taking up a new hobbie...fishing is a good one (im baised), Model building RC cars, planes...real boy stuff...anyway take care mate, sounds like your getting there. DA |
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mike407
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| December 02, 2010 | ||
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ditchedagain11 Hi Have a hangar full of RC planes. Which the boys enjoy as well. Just only two die hards flying last weekend. I'm on the dark side flying electrics and the Lipos don't like the cold to much. Will have to dust of an old glow one if the weather doesn't get much warmer. Mike |
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biffy
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| December 04, 2010 | ||
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Hey Mike 6 months? Come on now very very early days for you my lovely take baby steps and don't be hard on yourself try to focus on the positives, and hey if the kids have old clothes and she has diamonds and pearls well it don't make her a good person does it? As long as the children are healthy and happy that is the main thing try to focus on you and them and not her she has shown who she is and doesn't deserve a thought from you, if they were being neglected then that's different. Glad you have a place of your own and that the boys can visit you do you only get them on a Wednesday that seems harsh as it is only for her benefit? Hope it's not all in her favour the boys need their dad you are as important to them as their mother is. Talking with the boys is always the way as I am sure you know so catching up on what has been happening and how they feel since your last visit is maybe a good thing to do soon as you see them each time just explain how wonderful it is to hear their stories and the self service check out! Well go to a human and have a chat even if it's just to say hello how is your day it's amazing how human contact and a smile can make your day and theirs. You sound well in that you are planning ahead for holidays and such like and keeping focused on the positive side keep it up and remember "time" is the one true factor in life that helps eventually, sending you hugs and best wishes Mike...biffy xxx | |
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