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May 28
2007
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So, after nearly 1 1/2 years of being unhappily married and wishing I had the strength to leave him - we finally agreed that this marriage wasnt working! - I would move out with our two daughters.
Thankfully, I thought it would be easy - so often had I thought of how I would react; I was feeling strong and wouldnt be "bullied" or "put down" and made to feel insignificant in comparison.
But that all failed - miserably - a few choice words from him and i'm feeling depressed and suicidal again!! - damn - i must not let him bully and push me around.
He has offered me a lump sum of money and an annual payment (paid monthly) in respect of the children; a lot less than if I were to go through Solicitors - in fact a HELL of a lot less! - But, at the end of the day, if I am away from him and have a home with the children, is that better than fighting for the next 12 months?!?!?!
At least I could walk away with some money; knowing that he could simply get rid of any financial benefits on the "turn of a card" as he has so put it.
Sorry, just getting it all off my chest - tomorrow might be different.
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PETAL
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| May 30, 2007 | ||
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Stand up straight,shoulders back deep breath and here we go again. Dont let the buggers get you down remember you are just as brave and bully tactics work both ways. My depression is bad at moment but still trying to ick myself up and dust off - need energy for court 2 june give those girls a hug |
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violet
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| May 31, 2007 | ||
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Thank you. It amazes me how helpful and friendly people are here. I know I am not the only one going through this and certainly wont be the last, but sometimes it does feel like it. Today's Blog; Day started off okay, although his offer of £xx dropped by over half with the fact that I sign over company shares, sell my car and give up my pension - surprise, surprise to him!! All this, to ensure I get a future for the children. Whilst he remains in a large 5 bedroomed house, nice car, weekend sports car and a very nice lifestyle. The afternoon got better and I thought he was going to be "friendly" - oh how I forget how quickly things can change; bring on the evil and hurtful comments! |
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Liago
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| June 03, 2007 | ||
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Try not to let him grind you down....easier said than done. My divorce has turned very nasty, especially the financial side - I'm waiting for court date and avoiding any contact with the X via text and phone. He said he would destroy me and has tried every nasty trick in the book to do so. It has been hell and it has'nt finished yet.... Have to keep going... You are not alone Violet, be prepared for a long miserable fight. One bit of advice. I tried to soldier on pretending to friends and colleagues I was ok and in control, refusing to allow my emotions to surface. You must give yourself time to cry, grieve, and accept that you will experience a a huge range of emotions on your journey. If you dont they will surface with an almighty explosion at a time when you last expect it - I found that out to my cost. You are only human, don't try and be supermum You are not alone xx |
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