you only really believe its true when it happens!

I am afraid the my lovely little cat Tilly did tragically die on the roads, my dream was right in the end. Very sad, was so so upset and so was stbx at the time. I remember saying to him, god one of my nightmares has come true, the other one wont will it? (the one about him leaving) No he said, I love you and will be with you always. Three years on and I am shifting his stuff out of my house and he is flathunting 200 miles away, clearly looknig forward to his life full of women and opportunity..... We will see how that pans out.

Since he left, not had one single nightmare. Ironically the nightmare these days would be having him back

oooh! I would love the ex and the girlfriend to turn up in 3 days. I have SO much I could do to get off my chest! I'll keep you posted!

YES I some time dream about the ex harridan........it's called a nightmare

I think mums 'I have SO much I could do to get off my chest' Says it all really.

I have also had a couple of dreams of late (bearing in mind that I have never, ever met the bint and have no idea what she is like) where I have met the pair of them and well let rip really. I googled, and apparently this means that we have unresolved issues with the ex and ow, which makes absolute sense really. My daughter also has these type of dreams though on a more regular basis than I do.

Strangely these meetings always happen in large rambling houses (dusty I have to add), in the last one I noticed a small round table set for breakfast late at night, with one plate of toast on it. Can anyone sus that one for me?

Yep I remember my dreams zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Asram
x

I've got my fingers crossed that hopefully my dream counts as a Saturday Dream as it took place after midnight!
The time will come I will have to met the 'not so happy couple'later rather than sooner please :o)

Sair, one of the the three cats we brought to France four years ago was called Tilly - she died last August at the age of 18. That was very sad.

Yesterday, the second of the three cats just vanished. She was 18, too, and becoming decrepit, rarely went out, and was obviously pining for my absent wife. She went out for a rare walk around the garden, and just disappeared. She had bad hips, and couldn't go far. I am devasted and confused, and wonder why life is being so cruel, particularly as the absence of any trace of her, or a body precludes any sort of closure.

I have dreams, both day and night, that this is all just a big mistake, and everything will be OK.

With most of the posters on this forum, the departure of the partner seems to be due to a third party being involved, and understandably, there is animosity from those left behind. It wasn't quite like that with us, and although I think my wife has been foolish, greedy and driven by self interest, I still yearn for the days, not that long ago, when everything seemed to be all right.

It appears that I am held to blame for the fact that she couldn't cope with our new life here in France, even though it was largely her idea.

Consequently, her loss, and latterly the loss of a much loved cat, is having a devastating effect on me.

I know that there are those who take a tough stand, and have the power within them to plough on regardless, and I respect that sense of purpose, but many (including me)find it hard to come to terms with what has happened to us, especially when there doesn't appear to be anyone else involved, and so take a little longer to accept the situation, and their possible fate. Sometimes life has a habit of kicking those who are already down, the hardest.

Chris

((Chris)) I can only imagine the pain and devastation of the missing cat amidst the pain of losing your wife. My cats keep me going. Never home alone when they are by my side.

I am not surprised you feel kicked when you are down and I am sure you have looked everywhere for her. I wish there was something I could say to you, I simply understand the pain you must be feeling right now.

Please be very kind to yourself. I am just sat here wishing there was something I could do. Just know that I am thinking of you. Please take care x

This might sound daft but when I lost little Tilly I did some voluntary work for a cat charity in her honour. Hard when you dont speak the lingo in France but cats won't care! Maybe this could be a way for you to honour her. I found my spell with cats protection was great healing for my loss and I ended up bringing home a tiny little kitten who has never left my side since and she is three and a half now! Too soon for you to be thinking about other cats of course but the volunteering was amazing.