hi and welcome to this site . it is a shock. it happened to me 6 months
ago. the best thing to do is to do nothing for a couple of weeks and give
yourself a break and try to come to terms a little withit all. i went to
the citizens advice after 4 weeks and they were lovely but i didnt get much
help, they told me to see asol straight away. i did this but looking back i
needed more time to sort myself out emotionally. 6 months down the line and
i am getting better. when i went to the soli i was just going to ask about
my rights within seperation but the night before i went i asked my oh if he
had committed
adultery and he admitted he had and seemed unconcerned
that it broke my heart, we were together 4 20 years. i have a 18 year old
and a 16 year old and work part time. we are going to
mediation to try and sort finances , this is a
good option if you are on speaking terms as it is a lot cheaper and you may
get a better deal. however my husband is getting nasty and i dont think i
can continue with it. he has told me not to
contact him as when i do i
always end up in tears and he cant live with the guilt and hurt he has
caused me so doesnt want to know. he has informed his sol, says iam
pestering him. if you read the blogs on this site you will see how oh can
change so quickly and it is horrible.talk to friends and family and gather
as much information as you can. i am veryworied about money as we just cant
afford to run two houses. he said he would be fair about the money but has
already changed his mind on that one and is paying lless in every month.
you are entitled to working tax credit if you work16 hrs plus , i am
getting 500 a month and thatis keeping m at the moment. take car and pm if
you want. x
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