Help, getting belongings from marital home

I’m new to this, so please bear with me

My soon to be ex husband kick me and our 6 year old out of the marital house just over a year ago, but he still has a lot of my belongings that I would like back.
I can get into the house without causing any damage and get my stuff when he is out but I’m worried he would then call the police.
There is no order stopping me from going to the house but I’m not on the mortgage or deeds but I do have an order on the house stopping him from selling it.
Don’t want to have to spend a fortune to get back photo and things like that, but they do mean a lot to me.

(((((((Claire))))))

Hi, I would phone the Police yourself! Just phone the local police station or area office and explain your situation and request that they accompany you to the house to collect your belongings. You will probably need to advise your ex that you will be coming and let him provide access at his convenience. It's not a pleasant thing to do (I know) but it's probably the best way to go about it and you will be acting completely within the law as you are entitled to your personal possessions.

Before you go, make a list of all the things you need so, hopefully, you will not have to go back again after that.

As you say, if you enter the property when he is not around it could go against you as you are not on the deeds.

It's an awful situation to be in but I hope you can get through this without too much anxiety. Don't be embarrassed about phoning the Police, they deal with these sort of situations all the time and should be quite understanding.

Take care.

Chrys x

Thanks for that
but i don't feel going to the police is a option i have, as my ex is a special constable. And the police have taken his side all the way. (So much for impartiality)
And if I told him I was getting the stuff, he would destroy it.

Oh Claire, that's awful. I don't know your circumstances but if there has been a history of domestic violence there should be a community safety officer you can speak to. In theory, using the police to assist you in this situation should be completely impartial and you should be treated the same as any other person, regardless of his position in the police force. This obviously hasn't been your experience so far though, and must be very stressful.

If you are using a solicitor, you could get him/her involved but there would be costs to be considered. It may be worthwhile phoning though to ask what your rights are if you entered the house when he's not there to take your possessions. Alternatively, there is a confidential legal advice line for women, called Rights of Women (020 7251 6577) or you could try calling Women's Aid (0808 2000 247).

To try and resolve matters without resorting to the police or solicitors, is there a friend/family member who gets on with both of you that could go to the house with you to collect your belongings whilst he is there?

He clearly has no right to destroy or dispose of your belongings. But he had no right to throw you and your young daughter out. Words fail me!

I'm glad you were able to get the order to stop him from selling the house and I hope that things work out much better for you from now on. Sorry I couldn't be much help, hopefully someone else will be along soon to offer some good advice.

Take care.

Chrys x

it shouldnt mater if your ex is a special constable or not, I am sure if you speak to the right people you should get what you want. It is your right after all.