I hope that this will be the short and easy to digest answere!
If you get divorced your pension will be valued (CETV) and your wife will
get half; unless she has some pension provision of her own in which case
she will get a share of yours that when added to her pension will give her
the same amount as you. Think of the pension as a pot of money. Some of
the money in your pension pot will be taken out and put into her pension
pot so that each pot has the same amount in it. She then keeps her pot and
you keep yours and that's it..no widows
benefits etc.
You
keep what's left in your pot and she
keeps what's in hers. This will
of course leave you with a reduced pension when you retire.
That
is a
pension sharing order.
Forget about earmarking, most
solicitors have.
The only other
option is to buy out your wife's pension claim by offering her another
asset instead.