Re:changing schools

I receive no maintenance also and I have a child going to the worst school in the county. I would give anything to have my son go to a half decent school instead of the aweful failing school that I am stuck with. If I did have my son going to a godd school I would make what ever sacrifice was necessary to maintain that. You said you ex wont contribute any more so I assume he contributes something. My ex contributes NOTHING yet ex husbands are constantly portrayed as unpleasent and manipulative. That is if we are not be called old gits and perverts.

James I think what GMS is trying to say is that although her ex could afford to allow her and their children to stay in the same house they are in and therefore the children go to the same school he has put her in the position where she has no option but to move district and therefore the most sensible thing is to move schools, especially as one of the children is disabled and treking 3 children to and from school in a district away from wherre they live will obviously be quite difficult.

Also of course they will have to make new friends where they are going to have to live and those friends will likely go to the school the children will be moving to. So it does make sense.

As regards some absent fathers being a certain type of person/parent, the same could be said of some absent mothers.

My childrens father does pay CSA, but thats all he pays. He chooses not to see them, have anything to do with them in fact and it is the oldest girls birthday tomorrow. 21. A big birthday. Not only will she get no birthday wishes from him, she will not get any from the paternal family.

They have closed ranks. I "finally" divorced him. I am a "baddie", therefore, the children have to indirectly suffer too.

hi all, and firstly i apoligies for the spelling errrors!
secoundly i can say from experience that it is not only the male of the species ho can be difficult in these situations.
im single dad of 1 boy 5 yearsold and from the outset hen i left the relationship that the ex was far more concerned with causing me issue than ith the future care of our son, to the extent that she as delibritly telling him that he was going to die if he lived with me and i would turn into a monster and kill him hen he was asleep??

this is by far one of the lesser forms of abuse recieved by my son from her and her family, social services made it clear to the court that he ould be better cared for on all levels with me and since his living with me he has become a grade a student and credit to myself and the school!

however each and every time i wish to make even minor changes to contact arrangements due to afterschool clubs school days out etc and other commitments it has to be done via court order, which is costly and rediculus as the oposition to the changes even with consideration to balance of contact is complete wether there is a benefit to myson or to her simply because i have come up ith the idea??

OBVIOUSLY because im a control freak!!
or is it because im a concerned loving father ith the future of myson as his first priority and if this means that alterations to all plans need tobe made then that is exactly what i arrange, even in the event that it curtails her ME TIME!
since having children means thereis little or no ME time as all dicisions are made with consideration to the care and wellfare of offspring?

i for one think it is rather silly to get bogged down in infighting when common sense says that there is a benefit to the child a the grown up chioce would be to allow for the personal growth of the child even at the expense of the ADULT?

I left after being given the chioce by social services to take my son aay from the harmful environment or have him removed!

i did so with no financial support and at the expence of my career and the former family home (which she still lives in meaning i cannot get rented/mortgaged housing or social housing ) until the interest in this property is dealt with i struggle biuld a settled future for myself and myson.

she refuses to deal with the sale of the property and is not in a position to purchase outright, but has been able to get a court order to freeze the financial proceedings so has no insentive to release the property for sale as she has a free ride and is living it up with no concideration to myself or myson care or housing needs.

for those who have read this far, i refer to myson as MYSON since the time when my ex told him she wished he would die and i could watch, this i my opinion denys her the rightb to have the priviledge of having the right of being called MOTHER!
or reference to having offspring.

so in breif there should be process for removing her right to have contact with myson as it is in noway beneficial to him, but the DO GOODERS in this world will fight for her right to continue to emotionally abuse myson for the rest of his natural life as her comments will follow hom through life and may yet cause far more issue than is apparent at present.

ALL THIS in the name of justice for the weaker sex!!!

there is no justice in any divorce when one parent uses and abuses the gift of having a child to attack and be confrontational as the only loser is the child and there can be no sadder epitaph to any relationship than the knowledge that the petty vengance of either parent has caused them to lose sight of the only thing that truely matters in any relationship, THE FUTURE IN YOUR CHILD AND THERE ABILITY TO BE HAPPY AND TO BE LOVING PARENTS THEM SELVES!!!!

SO TO ALL PARENTS WHO CARE MORE FOR THE FIGHT THAN THERE CHILDREN!!

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