Re:Mediation

Hey Everyone,

Going into Mediation in a couple of weeks and just want to know what to expect really. First appointment is on my own, is that to establish what my intentions are???

Also what to expect from the second appointment with stbx??

Any advice would be greatfully appreciated.

Take Care. Suz

Hi Suzanne,

I was a nervous wreck before my mediation, but it wasn't so bad! The first meeting was quite short, I just told her my stance on finances and she told me what to expect. She told me she had to be impartial and that we could have separate meetings if I felt under threat of violence (although I believe this costs more).

The second meeting was very helpful - my stbx and I had been communicating through emails and solicitors, which conveyed more animosity than there actually was. With the mediator present, it was easier to talk without arguing and we managed to reach an agreement with just one more session.

It's in both your interests to reach an agreement sooner rather than later, so hopefully he'll be willing to compromise. You'll both need to go through financial disclosure, which should be explained to you in the first or second meeting.

Good luck and don't worry too much!

Hey Buletproof,

Thanks for the reply, first meeting next week but luckily on my own. I'm trying not to worry.

Thanks and take care. Suz

Hi Suzanne,

Just wondering how you got on at Mediation if you've already been. I'm thinking of going down that route, and like you, don't really know what to expect. Have you already petitioned for divorce, are there already solicitors involved? Sorry to be nosey, just trying to decide if it's right for me!!

Thanks,
jxr

Hey there Jxr,

Only been to the very first mediation, which is on my own, no ex's. They tell you whats involved and give you a lot of forms to complete then have a general chat.

I didnt think I would be going down this route either but we just got to the point where we cant agree on things or its turns into an argument or its turns nasty!!! Want to be able to agree on things before the petition in May, so things can move swiftly.

Where are you with your divorce, has things started for you yet???

Take care Suz Xxx

hi suzanne i have also done the initial first appointment and am awaiting the first joint one hope all goes well for you x

Thank you and to you too. Really alot of forms isnt it and three copies of everything, I suprised they didnt want three copies of naked photo's its that personal. chuckles.

Take care Xxx