Re:Your views needed please!!

We have been approached for help with some research into a possible article about the recession and divorce.

Recent research shows that the average time couples stick it out before divorcing has risen since the 1980s from 8.5 to 11.7 years. Is this because of money?

The proposed article will investigate just how much money issues can affect relationships (and will publicise Wikivorce).

Wikipeeps can help by posting their opinions or experiences on the following::

Has money ever affected how you viewed your partner?

Were money issues a motive for wanting to file for a divorce?

Have money issues ever affected your emotional health or wellbeing?

Did thinking of the loss in income after a divorce ever a motive to stay in your relationship?

Or were money problems more of a signifier to seek a divorce than to stay together?

The views you post may be used (anonymously) in the article. If you are prepared to discuss your views and experiences with the journalist concerned, please indicate on your post that you are happy to be contacted OR send me, Hadenoughnow, a PM with contact details.

Thank you.

Hi had,

I am one of the fortunates that it was on account of the credit crunch that my divorce progessed to conclusion...indeed the credit crunch achieved more benefit for me in 6 months than 9 years of legal procedures.

Elle x

Absolutely money affects the decision! I stayed, despite an abusive husband, as we were trying to fund my daughter through university (as I didn´t want her burdened with debts). I left when she finished university.
Even now I have left I am sometimes tempted to go back as it is hard to be struggling financially in my forties (of course Camerons stealth penalties on single parents isn´t helping). In fact had it not been for the death threats he started giving I do think I would have stayed because I worried about the drop in my finances. However, the choice between being killed and being poor was a non-starter!

Absolutely money is a factor. I have spent most of my adult life being hard up. I am now fortunately comparatively well off, divorce will kick me back financially, it will mean a substantially lower standard of housing. Plus having witnessed cases in which the value of the sole asset (FMH) was dissipated by lawyers' fees, I am absolutely terrified of the potential cost. I would be much less anxious if there were clearer guidelines by which I could calculate what the financial settlement might be - and to date the only sensible advice I've had has come from this site.

I agree with you pixy. I am seperated but haven't even started divorce proceedings because of the costs and the problems of FMH being probably unsaleable in the current market. The thought of a long running dispute with an obstructive ex is stopping me actually divorcing, so now I live in limbo.