Re:Disabled Children?

Hello, my first post so hope it's in the right place.

I am currently at the financial stages of my divorce.

I am a full-time carer to my three children, two of whom are disabled and will possibly never live independantly. My STBX has asked that I don't go for any of his pension or lump sum (armed forces) due in a years time. We were married 16 years.

Would I be able to ask for the above circumstances to be taken into account? would it make any difference? I am unlikely to ever have a full time career in which to build my own pension. He is adamant I don't go near his money.
Just very worried about mine and my childrens future

The needs of children are more often than not the first and most important consideration when it comes to deciding how assets and income should be divided.

What a person wants or demands means very little, its what your are entitled to in law that counts, the only way he can hang on to the pension is if other assets exist that will allow.

The needs of disabled children especially those who may never be self sufficient are very important indeed.

It does of course depend on his other assets, but certainly it was taken into account in my case as I have a disabled child.

I also received as part of my settlement, on going maintenance for my child if (when) she lives with me as an adult.

Thankyou both, there are no other assets as such, the FMH has 10k equity 120k mortgage and around 20K of debts, all his but being thrown in as marital debt. He's also got a large (17k) pot of money hidden away in cash with a friend which will no doubt disappear there is no trace of it now.
Re-assuring to know that they will take the boys future into account too though.