Moving a million miles an hour!

Hello Wikis

When this whole horrible divorce thing started over a year ago for me I took on the advice of people and kept busy. I didn't have a job as I was a stay at home mum, so I got a job, in fact I started my own business. I had a relatively good social life, but it was with smug marrieds (as I thought of them then), so I went out and made new friends. I rediscovered the joys of clubbing and staying out until 5am. I filled every weekend, the last year has seen me fencing, rally karting etc. etc.

Anyways......I'm totally shattered!!! The business is going well, to the point where I am turning away work. I know I have the opportunity to make it bigger but find myself putting it off. You see I'm not sure if I only did it so I could use a two fingered salute to my ex (he runs his own business). I'm finding I'm working late every night and I don't like it. I really want to pick my kids up from school instead of them going into child care. I would really like to spend a weekend on my sofa and not on the town. I want to go out with the smug marrieds and talk about DIY. I want to go and have a golf lesson and do a bit of gardening!

I think what I'm trying to say is that I feel like I have tried so hard to fill every moment that I have not really considered what I really want. I want my "new normal"! I have reached a point where I don't feel I need to leave everything in my old life, it wasn't all bad, and I don't have to prove myself to anyone. I'm thinking of quitting the business and getting a part time job with less pressure, I can free up some time and do the things I want to. I can stop moving a million miles an hour!

Is it normal and have other wiki's felt this way or do I just need a week of early nights and detox?

Love to all
SG
xx

Hi Sailorgirl

Yes I think it is normal, its 2 years for me now & I think I am just getting to burnout. threw myself into work & diy, not the social life though.

Now am just tired very tired!

I think it is time to slow down & take stock, no more diy & curb the work a bit - think of me for a change & not just speeding forwards.

If you can afford it yes go p/t spend wks in & spend time with your kids & with yourself, deciding on where you want to go in life. You are right you dont need to prove yourself to anyone, just be happy.

JJx

Sounds like you need a lazy, indulgent holiday.

You've built yourself an amazing new life.
Don't beat yourself up about it.
Step outside & look at it from a different viewpoint, before you burn any bridges.

hi SG
Just wondered as you said your business is doing so well, would taking someone on part-time be an option? Even 1 day or couple of afternoons a week? That could free up some of your time?
I can understand how you feel wanting to spend more chill time with your children.
But can I say when I read your post I thought WOW what an amazing lady you are! And a well deserved two fingered salute to your X!
Be proud of what you have done!
But you do need to have some time out if you are feeling rushed etc
But try and consider some options before packing up, what sounds like a very successful business!
GS xx

I think it normal..

Sounds as though you're the victim of your own success but you know what? You needed that to prove to yourself - no one else - that you can and will survive.

You're one gutsy lady and you've achieved wonders. I remember when this business was a germ of an idea and now look at you!

So why can't you trim it back to what you would find manageable? Leave yourself a free day when you say, Sorry fully booked. Why does it have to go altogether? Is taking on someone else or passing some of the workload to someone else who needs the contacts you have established a possible solution?

Stuka's right, don't burn your bridges until the path ahead is clear!

Hugs!

Mitchum xx

Big ((((Hug))) a blanket and a sofa mate xx
It's normal and it's probably not helping your energy levels with the burning of candles at both ends.
Don't give up...I'll come and take some of the workload off you. Forget the 5ams though...well maybe one a month?
Just remove your foot from the accelerator and put into cruise control xxx