Ive had several people
contact me thanking me for
my comments which somehow helped them. Im not here for thanks as it should
be me who is giving thanks for help given.
The same theme runs through
these posts. Madness, Loneliness, Dispair,Worry. Everyone thinks they are
alone in this but they are definitely not as I went through the same
process before I eventually came out the other end. Here are some of my
favourite sayings !!
Your confidence never went away..it only took a
back seat for a while.
90% of the things you worry about will never
happen so why spend energy worrying.
Just because one person thinks
you are a BAS***** doesn't mean the rest of the 6.000.000.000 people on the
planet feel the same.
Its not a case of you losing your other half its
a case of them losing you.
If they really think that wrecking your
life was worthwhile let them go because they are not worth it.
If they
thought the grass was greener on the other side you will snigger when it
turns a muddy brown.
They will never find what they are looking for
and will remain nomads searching for the one thing they lost.
Those
who cheat will cheat on the next person again. Once a cheater,always a
cheater.
You have to be a very good lier as the lies will be covered
up with more lies until they spend all their time lieing.
Consider
yourself a better person than they are and become a better person. You dont
have to stoop to their level.
Save your energy and work on
yourself.
Take a dispoible camera and take photos and throw them in a
drawer. In 2 years time you will have forgotten these events and this will
show you what you have done and how far you have come.
Take good
advice, reject bad advice but remember that those who give it do so with
the very best intentions.
Remember you are on your own and you can no
longer blame your failures and mistakes on others. Work on yourself and
accept that you wont get it right first time.
Work on gut reactions.
If you have a feeling it is possibly right. The mind picks up signals that
you often miss.
Take one step at a time. Somedays it might seem to be
backwards but it isn't. Its part of the roller coaster. Eventually all
roller coasters stop and you get off.
Never ask WHY. You will probably
never find out anyway.
If you think you are going mad you aren't. You
are just processing the facts to make sense even if you dont like the
answers.
Anger is a wasted emoyion and you have better things to
achieve.
Karma does work but often not in the way you expected.
If you respect yourself others will respect you.
Forget the
limitations of your old life and create a better one.
Be flexible ,
old habits die hard and you will have to adapt new attitudes, interests and
maybe values.
Ask yourself what you really want and go for it.
There are no problems. You just have to find the solution.
Hopefully others will add more to this but remember that at the end of a
tunnel there is always light...so make for the light.
take care Polar
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