How much is enough

Just pay the minimum to the parent with care on Child Support.

If you can pay more, then use it directly on the kids when with you or open savings accounts in the children's names and put it in there, in time it will be needed for education or something else.

You are never going to win because if you pay the minimum then it will be thrown in your face. Instead simply look at it as I am paying wahat I have been ordered/instructed to pay. You wont get a thank-you for paying anything extra and if you don't pay enough (even if you have overpaid in the past) it will end up being a reason to come after you as being in arrears.

When will it all end. I have said that there are more people out there with a lot less. I get she has no money / needs / blah blah.

Once the house is sold mortgage etc will not be paid. However she is not making it easy to sell. leaving things a mess etc.

I am even now having to offer more money to her to reduce the price and get it sold. That way I can get some cash back.

I already have savings accounts for the two of them which the ex does not know about. I do feel smug when she says she is providing for them. That means buying them toys NO they dont need that (though they have some at mine) . I will not spoil them. I have worked hard to be where I am at. They should do the same and earn respect. Maybe teach their mother! lol.

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Lets be straight here. I pay around £550 a month for my 2 children. I get one of them every second weekend for 3 days. I currently pay half the mortgage and debts still left. I have also sucked up lots of joint debt.


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So presuming that the CSA have not taken into account neither the mortgage or your debts (or you haven't looked at it) you are retaining equity in the property and have a financial interest in it to be released at a later date? And the debts that you're still paying for the family have been and are being used for your benefit?

Whilst yes I totally agree (and I'm paying out 33% of my income to the other house in maintenance and one of our three children lives with me full time) 20% does seem alot but have you actually sat down and worked out what the total for each child is ­base­d on:

Gas, Electric, Council Tax, Insurance, Water, Mortgage, Rent, TV, Food, Travel, Clothing, Trips, Telephone, Insurance, Health Care, Holidays etc?

Look at the Total costs for the house then divide it by the number of residents and then divide each childs contribution in two. 50% of that is for you and 50% is for your ex to fund from her income and benefits.

So in your case if there are three people living there and the total cost each month is £2000 each child is £666.67 and your share for two children is £666.67 and your ex £666.67.

T

Bills are due to her whacking them up. But I except I have to pay 50% as I was married to her.

Mortgage as both names on it will not be taken into account. There is no equity in the house or very little. Any that is there will be given straight to the ex without me making anything.

Children do not need holidays. This is a luxury and if they are to go I will take them and pay directly. I will not sub my ex.

There is a minimum amount you have to spend to operate a house for one person anyway. £550 extra a month for food / clothing /heating / etc is way more than enough.

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Bills are due to her whacking them up. But I except I have to pay 50% as I was married to her.

Mortgage as both names on it will not be taken into account. There is no equity in the house or very little. Any that is there will be given straight to the ex without me making anything.



So if the bills were for goods and they remain in the family home and the payments for those items are £15 per week or more and you can show it then yes you can in fact put in for a variation. I failed with mine for the suite which is still in the family home because it fell below the £15 per week limit. Obviously as it's in the family home I had no use of it.

With regards to the mortgage it is accepted that your name will be on the mortgage and is whether you will receive any payout (as shown by the financial order) when it's sold and whether your name remains on the deeds that is relevant.

Mine again was rejected because the financials had not been completed and my name remained on the deeds. If after the financials were completed and I was to receive nothing from the house and still be ordered to pay the mortgage then yes I would be eligible for a variation.

Children do not need holidays. This is a luxury and if they are to go I will take them and pay directly. I will not sub my ex.

And are you seriously saying that the children should only have a holiday with you for the entire period of their life? I begrudge my ex everyone of the three holidays she had last year but I never begrudge our children any holidays they get ever as they're only children once.

There is a minimum amount you have to spend to operate a house for one person anyway. £550 extra a month for food / clothing /heating / etc is way more than enough.

So i'm presuming when you applied my calculation to the other house that it came out as more than the £550 for the two childrens share of running costs?

T

No I am saying I should not pay for my ex to take them on holiday. If she chooses to do that then she pays from her own money. When I take the kids away she does not give me money. I have to feed / clothe and look after them I do not get any money.

Your calculations are Completely flawed and not relevant.

Total from CSA and half mortgage that I give. and I do not live there is £1100 a month.

I will not underwrite the ex's life style.

You cannot take all bills add them together and divide by three. There is a ­base­ element that must be paid if one or more stay in a house.