Revert to maiden name

Bob,

I reverted to maiden name on the day I signed for MY new home...was a moment of madness...it was a statement...it was about this home being mine...but I respect al the reasons that the other posters have stated as being need re kids/job/etc and nothing to do with moving on.

Chrys,

After much deliberation I opted for Ms solely because it states I have been married, which I have.

E

I started using Ms long before I was ever married (started when I was about 18) - as soon as I realised there was an option which meant I didn't have to reveal my marital status. For me it was an equality issue, as we don't know men's marital status from calling them Mr.

I also kept my maiden name when I was married - and Ms was the only title that made sense as I couldn't call myself Miss or Mrs, given that I was married but wasn't using my husband's surname. Convenient when getting divorced really.

I have often wondered why so many women keep their married name after divorce .
I consider that changing your name after marriage , is one of the very few areas in life where men get the better deal .
I'd hate to change my name ,but many women do after marriage(tho it's not compulsory) ,and keep it after divorce .
But why ? If it was men that changed name ,I'd have changed mine back long ago .
I guess it's mainly for the childrens sake ,but what if there are no children ?
This is quite a good thread ,I will watch it closely

Hi

I'm intending on changing my name back to my maiden name, i much rather my maiden name as it's a bit unusual but it's more about trying to get my identity back. I have children, the youngest being nearly 13 so i have wondered whether for her i should keep married name but i don't think it really matters these days. As for Miss or Ms i'm still a bit unsure.

Jenny
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Names are emotive and define how we see ourselves.

It's only comparatively recently that married women have opted sometimes to keep their maiden name after marriage, or to revert to their maiden name after divorce.

Changing your name can show a change of status or lifestyle, but changing it can involve a lot of fuss and expense - so many people to notify - bank, passport agency, driving license agency, children's schools, hairdresser, dentist, doctor, work, pension fund, friends, family, shops where you hold accounts, library, clubs, etc etc.

Personally Bob, if you've moved on from your divorce, why do you care what your ex wife is doing?

I too have kept my married surname. Nothing to do with not moving on. I would at times maybe like to change it - but it has been my name for longer than any other name and so it IS my name really. Also want to have same name as my kids. I have moved on but my name is my name nothing to do with the divorce. Although must admit to dropping the MRS part - its personal choice I think. Maybe your ex just feels that it is her name and so hasn't ven thought of changing it. Take care x

Also, together with rubytuesday's answers I'd say that, it's an arduous task to change your name: passport, banks, doctor, dentist, pension, etc etc, some of which could also incur a cost. So, if not done soon after divorce it might just be easier to leave it. A tad conceited of you perhaps to think the reason is she's not moved... not meant to offend...