Revert to maiden name

divorced 2 yrs ago but ex has kept married name, is this "normal" ? implies to me that she's not yet completed the "move on" bit ? comments welcome

Many divorced women keep thier married name after divorce, this can be for a number of reason, ie - keeping the same name as the children, they have had their married name for many years, sometimes longer than they had their maiden name, some have forged a career as Mrs A**** and wish to keep the name - its all about personal choice, and often very little to do with "moving on".

I have kept my married name and I have no intention of changing it. My reason is I do not want to have a different surname to my children, its as simple as that.

I will keep my married name to be the same as my childrens, or until (if) I remarry. Plus I have not long had a new passport! That would be madness to lose the £80 just to change my name! However my friend can't wait to revert to her maiden name. I guess its all choice.

I couldn't revert to my maidon name quick enough. My 16 year old daughter also chose to take my maidon name as well as she was disgusted with her father.

Although, under different circumstances I may have persuaded her to do otherwise, as my ex husband is adopted I didn't try to change her mind because I didn't think it was too big a deal.

I changed my name because I no longer wanted to be associated with my ex.

Additionally I call myself "Miss" not "Ms" because I do not believe that I ever married my ex. Of course I know I did legally, but he was cheating on me prior to marriage and throughout the marriage.

If he had married in honesty and love (as I believe I did) that would be different, but the fact that he admitted that he married me simply because he wanted a home and family with me, whilst playing around with anything and everything that walked, I would have taken the stance that we were in love when we married and things just went wrong as so often they do and therefore I would have considered myself to have been married.

But at the end of the day a name is simply that, it does not define a person, so really it doesn't matter what someone is called at the end of the day.

Jo x

As you see from previous replies there are various reasons- my one would be triple maiden one, so it's impracticle. Sorry, Bob, it's not flattering, it's just a matter of practicality in most cases.

Bob, I don't think keeping the married name means she hasn't moved on. It's probably down to practicalities and is perfectly normal, just a matter of choice. In my case I will keep the married name to be the same as my children and grand-children. I wouldn't like them to think I was separating myself from them in any way.

However, I'm not sure whether to be known as Mrs, Miss or Ms. (I hate the term Ms). What do others think?

Chrys