HI Wikivorcers
this is a strange one and i just wanted some
advice.
My partner and her ex were due to go to an FDR last
thursday. He had dragged his heals and failed to comply with deadlines and
orders (despite being the applicant)...it's been nearly a whole year of
stress, time and money to follow a procedure she had no control over. it's
probably cost us nearly £4k.
anyway, we knew we didn't want to
do the FDR and he finally agreed to the only solution possible over the
house. his solictor was on record with the court and drew up the
consent order. three days before court, his solictor
wrote to the court and said an agreement was in place, it was signed by
both parties and asked for the hearing to be set aside as a 30 minutes
directions hearing to sign and seal the agreement.
despite having paid for a bundle (since we was ignoring a court
order to do one), we cancelled our
barrister and thankfully went in with a solicitor.
the ex had turned up without paperwork, position statements and the
like and was determined to get this adjourned.
he also turned up
without his solicitor.
the Judge asked our solictor to do his
paperwork!!! it took an hour for her to do this and he was refusing to
accept anything, even the
consent order he had signed and drawn up with his
solictor. he refused to
contact his solictor and we
had to do it.
To cut a long story short, the Judge got totally
fed up with ex - asked him if he was in agreement, since we had conceded
some issues (namely his illusive pension and savings which have never been
disclosed), as well an indemnity clause on the house (which he's getting).
he said he was and as he was about to sign, he started to query the judge
on it. he also accused our solicitor of pressuring him to sign the consent
order. the judge had had enough at this point when he said he was not in
agreement and signed in his place.
So, you are asking...what's
the issue?
my issue is this. his solicitor MUST have explained
the consent order. she changed the hering from an FDR to a 30 minutes
directions hearing. she was on record, and in my opinion should have turned
up - with the paperwork, his position statement etc.
Our
solictor did her work, and did her best to deal with the ex who was being
vile in court. i'm pretty sure if he was being represented in court, at
least the two
solicitors might have been able to stop this
dragging on for hours.
In my opinion her solicitor was highly
unprofessional and she cost us at least 2 hours in time. so nearly £400.
my question is...should she have been there if she was on
record?
my solicitor accepted a verbal apology from his
solicitor, but she had a horrid time doing her work (with her unresponsive
agressive swearing unco-operative client)...but to me, that's not good
enough.
at the end of the day we were paying for our solicitor's
time and not her clients.
i have a good mind to send the ex's
solicitor a pretty stern letter about her unprofessionalism and a bill for
2 hours of our cost.
i'm sure someone here will tell me i can't
do that, but i am livid about her behaviour and i am annoyed he has avoided
costs and i have effectively picked up the tab.
what can i do if
anything?
UANB (up and not broken!)