Hi both,
Thank you for your reply LittleMrMike, it was really
useful as the situation is fairly similar to mine. You seem to have good
knowledge on this so I hope you don't mind me asking if you might be
prepared to comment on my situaton. Perhaps also the answers might help
Effect21 further too?
My
unmarried partner and I
bought a house jointly 50/50 as tenants in common in Sept 2009. I put down
£43K deposit and although we had a declaration of trust detailing this
(drawn up by a solicitor) unfortunately it was never signed.
The
agreement between us was that he would pay half of the 43K deposit off over
5 years on a montly basis from May 2010. However despite my asking for it
he did not pay anything until July 2011 and so far has only paid one month
of the balance.
I hope because of the solicitor having drawn the
document up and talking to us both about it at length at the time of
purchase, that will be enough proof to guarantee the deposit is paid to me
on sale whatever happens. The solicitor has said he would be willing to
back me up if it ever came to it in the courts
However, the main
issue is..
At the time of purchase his daughter (now 15) was
staying with us every other weekend and although there had been vague
conversations about her spending more time with us at that time there was
no consideration that she may come to live with us full or part time.
In the summer of 2010 however she fell out with her mum and
stepfather and they threw her out. My partner came home one night with her
basically saying that she had to live with us now. We had a brief
conversation about it (a little in shock) and I verbally agreed that we
could try to make it work.
Anyhow, a year has passed now and the
daughter is living 7 days out of every 14 with us and 7 with her mum (they
patched things up a bit).
However despite the amount of time
she is living here, as things have developed I am unhappy about the
situation as I feel it has put too much pressure on our (me and my
partners) already difficult relationship and impacted on my home/space too
much. This is compounded by the fact that he has never contributed a penny
for her to live here and all bills and mortgage are paid half half by me
and him.
I have said that I am unhappy and am requesting that we
all move out and either rent or sell. Although I feel guilty in saying
this we are
not married and as I am no
longer prepared take on the responsibility of his child, let alone support
her financially which I am doing by proxy.
However he says that
I am the one who should move out as I am unhappy and I think he will fight
to stay in the property. I feel this is grossly unfair, not only because I
paid all of the deposit (which he has barely paid any of his share of) but
also because he brought his daughter to live in the house which has had a
huge impact on our relationship and he is dictating everything in terms of
the space and finances by refusing to pay anything for her.
I
know we need to go to
mediation but please can you give me your
opinion as to whether I would be able to force sale if nothing else worked.
I know she is a minor but we are
not married, she has not
been living with us very long and also he will benefit from the sale of the
property and certainly be able to rent somewhere else if not buy.
Also - I want to move out as I am miserable but would this weaken my
position? And if I did move out would I still be liable to pay for my half
of the mortgage - I certainly would not be able to pay that and rent
somewhere else so I'd be stuffed.
Any suggestions or advice
would be really appreciated. Many thanks in advance
Simone