Re:Hello from a newb

Hi all

So clearly I am new here, thought I'd say hi.

I separated from my husband in 2007 but am still yet to file for divorce.

Unfortunately as he was a house husband and I've always been the one who has had to work I've also had to leave my son behind. He stays with me most weekends though and we try to do things amicably for him. My ex is a master manipulator though and has been making divorce very difficult. I need to get out of victim, over sensitive, crying mode and get on with life.

I have a new partner who I live with, my son gets on great with him which I am grateful for.

With regards to divorce I am going down the 2 years living apart route. We have verbally agreed that I see my son every weekend though I am flexiable and realise that he needs to be able to see his dad's side of the family for celebrations etc so sometimes I have him every other weekend. I also pay cash for the maintenance, which I am trying to change because at the moment I can't prove I'm paying. So life currently isn't ideal and its tough but its better for our son not living in a house of constant arguments and people out there do seem alot worse off.

I don't know where to turn, everything seems like a mountain. My ex has no interest in divorcing because he knows I'd re-marry and he'll lose control of my life that way.

Anyway thats me, so hi

Hi MindMuddle
Welcome to Wikki. Whatever stage you are at, the current one can be daunting. The good news is that there's loads of us here that might have been there and only too happy to try to support when needed.

Initiating divorce will enable contact and financial arrangements to be formalised, hopefully with continuing flexibility to benefit your son. I appreciate your husband might try to add to difficulties but would hope that this site will be here for you when needed.

Best wishes