advice needed right away please!!!!!

Thank you just put the kids to bed hope they are going to settle ok.

Be strong for your children, you will get through this for them, I think if i didnt have them I could have probably topped myself at the beginning. Now 4 months down the line I wonder how in the hell could I think of ending my life and ruining my kids life even more because of that b"%^&*d. They will find it hard and it will be a struggle with a load of mixed emotions for all of you but they are much more resilient than us. Things do get easier, there may still be battles ahead but it does get easier and I for one never thought I would be saying that. take care and look after yourself & your children

Its tough reading what you are going through and sadly I'm suffering a similar fate.

Hope we both get through this in time.

Welcome to wiki,I am sorry you find yourself in this situation.

I just wanted to say i understand why you and you girls are with the family if that is what they are used to.

My nephew lived with us during the week as both my sister and her husband had to work to keep their house.


I would say take a few days to calm down before you go to talk to her perhaps on neutral ground.

Take care of yourself and your children
Nanny

Welcome to wikivorce singinrep

I have no words of wisdom to make everything right but wish you well in the difficult days ahead

JE

Hi singingrep,

Is it the 'phonesex' you find so repulsive about your wife or is that just the last straw?

The ideal environment for your children is a stable family unit. The next best thing would be shared residency. In both casse you and your wife need to talk sensibly so please don't wait.

I would urge you to consider that just like you, your wife is a human being who has highs and lows, needs and aspirations. Perhaps she should have spoken with you herself before deciding to get a thrill over the telephone but please don't compound her decision by condeming her actions without at least trying to understand her.

I wish you both calm and patience and urge your families to accept that the understanding between you and your wife must come from you and your wife.

Good Luck!

YA

Sorry Young again but my stbx emailed porm images and texts from my computer to another woman - you can not say that somehting like hta is just highs and lows, aspirations etc. he also cheated with a different woman. I find the porn harder to dealk with than the affair. If people are in a relationship then porn emails and sextexts are a no go no matter what same as affairs but it has came out and shown wgat he is