Re:Please Please help

Hello,
Please Please help !!
I split from my partner 3 years ago and now am wanting to proceed with divorce and the reasons why ive waited so long will become apparent further into this post.
I left the family home 3 years ago and moved into a home we purchased while together to rent out as a nest egg the value of this house is 160k and we have 30k equity in this premises.
My ex to be is in the family home which is worth 400k and we have 60k equity in.
I was a director in his building company which he says he had removed me as a director (which my last solicitor said wasn’t possible without my consent) but shows online sites that he removed me 2 days after leaving the family home
We have 3 children at the now ages of 25,19 and 18 who were meant to stay in the family home with their dad as it was close to schools and friends but weeks after I left the 2 youngest moved in with me in the 2 bedroom house because they couldn’t put up with their fathers drunken antics.
So that’s the background now I haven’t been able to divorce as my name is on the mortgage on the family home and my ex2be wouldn’t be able to get one by himself so after us going through mediation and him walking out we decided we would both stay as we were as long as he kept the the home im in up to date and support the boys. This lasted for a few months and then stopped and now he just laughs if I call him about any matter and does nothing and he turned up at the home drunk the other night while driving .So I thought enoughs enough time to divorce.
I Gave him a warning and after a couple of days he said that ok he would sell the family home and he would by a smaller home as long as I signed a form with his solicitor stating that I have no rights to the new house he will be buying alone.
The other fact is his granddad died in October which makes me think that it takes about 4 months for wills to be sorted and that hes come into some of his grandads money.
So here are my questions –
1- I Think it is very suspicious that hes suddenly decided to sale now after his granddad died am I entitled to any inheritance and is their anyway he could hide this if I am.
2- One of the advisors on the Freephone wikivorce line said if hes selling the house there is no point taking him to court just take the money and run.This sounds like bad advice please advise.
3- Should I sign this form if he does sell the family home.
4- Do the courts take in to consideration about my 2 boys one is at university away and comes home one weekend a month and special occasions and the younger boy who is going to university in September and will also need home as a ­base­ they have been with me for 3 years with no support from their father.
5- Do I have any share of the company in the divorce and is he allowed to take me out as a director without my consent.

Please please help as im at my wits end

First question. Is the FMH in joint names ?
If it is not, there is one thing you must do and do it now. That is, you register matrimonial rights against the title. If he is the sole owner there is nothing to stop him selling or mortgaging the house over your head - unless you register and prevent this. But he needs your consent to do either of the above if the house is in joint names.
So that's the first question.
You asked , are you entitled to any share in any money which he may have inherited from his grandfather. You could be, but you must remember one thing. The main priority for a Court would be to make sure you both have homes, If he has inherited a sum of money, that obviously makes his task easier. It could mean that you could receive a greater share of other assets and he keeps the inheritance. Without knowing more, one could not say.
You said your husband asked you to sign a form. It may not be unreasonable that, at the end of the day, he should emerge with a house which is clearly and indisputably his. Ideally both parties should come away with a house of their own, but sadly this does not always happen.
But there is no way in which I would advise you to sign a form which I have not seen. Furthermore, if you did, I strongly suspect it would be legally ineffective. And I do not have enough information to judge the fairness of the offer. So at this stage my answer is, do not sign it. But it might - just might - be reasonable as part of an overall ' package deal ' which is fair to both parties.
You asked whether the Courts take into account the needs of grown up children to have a home as a ­base­. Yes, to some extent they do, but their need is not regarded is the same as it would be if you have dependent children.
You asked whether you have any share in the Company in the divorce. Sorry, on this information, that is quite impossible to answer. You may have worked together as a partnership for a long time and built up the business by your joint efforts - in which case you really ought to have a share in it. But if you only have one solitary share and do hardly anything, then maybe not. But even then, the business is an asset and is available for sharing.
The snag is that sometimes selling the business is killing the goose that laid the golden eggs. So sometimes it may be fairer or more practical to let him have the business and give you a greater share in the other assets.
Can he remove you ? I don't know. I am not a company lawyer and would in any event need to see the Memorandum and Articles . But being severely practical, is it likely that the two of you can work together again after this ?
My initial reaction is it looks as if you have a long marriage and have raised three children. Everything points to a 50/50 split although how you achieve that is up for negotiation.
There are two matters which you have not raised but which could be important .
1. It is possible that you could be entitled to spousal maintenance ? You may have compromised your earning ability by bringing up children. You really must investigate this aspect.
2. Are there any pensions involved here and would you have a claim on his pension ?
I hope that I have persuaded you that this matter is likely to be quite complicated but there does seem to be a fair bit of money sloshing about and you need to to see a family lawyer. Wikivorce unfortunately is of little help in multifaceted divorce cases.
But don't forget the opening paragraph.
LMM