what has been said that has helped?

I've been meaning to start this thread for a wee while, and today seems as good a day as any as I'm having a low day.
Some of us have been for counselling, or have just been lucky enough to have understanding friends and family who have managed to help - and I know it's no easy task. (We are prickly I think!) But has someone said something to you that has helped you see things differently and has stopped you feeling stuck in grief (or another stage/state)? If so please share!

Any message of support received on here be that to a blog or a post.

The kindness of strangers............ who soon become friends.

The kick up the **m from Patrick or Marshy when you are feeling sorry for yourself.

The love from people like patti, nanny, stingrayj, mitchum, killbill, asacatfish, caz2011 and of course yourself scaryclaire (to mention a few).

The smile replies bring to my face and the way they lift my heart (righty tighty!!)

The laugh in chat late at night or rather early morning, when you are feel really down and you don't want to face another night in that bed on your own (paulm, chris, jimmy, disenchanted) and of course bobbingalong's photo and the sound advice from JJ, DA, Fiona and Ruby.

Yes all of you have helped! And probably a few more!

I no longer want to cry all day every day or seethe at the sight of him. That's thanks to wikipeople!

I was in a financial battle with my ex when my dad said 'JD its only money let it go.'

I did and the finances were sorted it out in a matter of days and in fact, it actually worked in my favour.

A counsellor responding to me crying

' oh why oh why had this happen to me what had I done to deserve this,'

said your ex hasn't done anything to you, he has done this to himself and only you can stop it affecting you.

At the time I was rather angry with her but I can see what she was trying to say to me.

Bad things happen, its how you react that affect you.

Biggest thing I have learnt is that I cannot control what others say, or do or how they deal with things. I can only sort myself out and be the best that I can be and hope that is enough to make a difference.

One thing that my therapist said to me that really helped was when I was talking about how slow things were moving.
She said "remember it might be moving slowly but it is moving" Sometimes we feel like we are not moving forward but we are, it is just that sometimes we are moving so slowly we can't see it. It is useful then to take a look back and see how far we have come rather than get frustrated that we haven't reached the end.

My counsellor presented me with a glass of cloudy black coffee with what looked like fishing line coming out of the top. He pulled on the line, describing this horrible dark place where I was (am), and out came a gorgeous sparkly crystal - me coming out from the dark place. The crystal hangs in my bedroom window and the Rainbow patterns that it creates help me to focus on the emerging 'me' - just wish it would happen more quickly than it is!

Only 2 words......Sh!t happens.