Internet courses that promise to save my marriage

Hi,
Has anyone tried any of the countless websites that say they will give the information I needs to save my marriage. They usually include line something like, " even if you are the only one who wants to save your marriage".
I've given my email address to someone called Mort Fertel who keeps sending me emails saying that he can help me save my marriage for just $ 399. Am I just clutching at straws or do any of these websites/online courses work?
Thanks

I haven't tried them but I know people who have. Sadly at best they delayed separation and I don't know any case where they actually saved the marriage in the long term. Relationship counselling seems a bit more successful. When one spouse has decided the marriage is over they have often deliberated for a long time before saying anything and it very difficult to comeback. Sorry.

Fiona,
Thank you for your reply.
I persuaded my wife to go to Relate with me but the session ended with her telling the counselor that she did not want to save our relationship. I know I am going to have to accept that our marriage is over but I still can't figure out why she is prepared to do this to our children.

Hi labcoat,

A marriage can't work with only one party keeping it going. There is nothing you can do.

You could however ask your wife why she wants to end the marriage, but before you do, please consider that you need to accept her answer. That may not be easy.

Good luck,

YA

I would stay well away from internet marriage remedies along with anything promising a larger penis or to cure baldness, snake oil all of it.

Relate and counseling seem to be the best option but only if you both want it to work, if one person decides its over, its over.

Sadly there will always be those who will take advantage of those desperate and distressed.

There are many of us here that started on the separation road googling things like save my marriage.

I know i did.

Dukey is right though. You can't make someone want to be with you, no matter how hard you try. Heartbreaking I know.

If you are alone in wanting to save your marriage, then please don't waste your money on this. Otherwise it's relate and counselling only if you can get your spouse to go.

I personally got counselling just for me when my marriage ended as my Stbx refused to attend. This was the best decision I could have made and your money would be better spent on this if you want support. Because individual counselling will help you address why you want to save your marriage and how to cope when you are alone with that wish.

Just a quick note to say that I agree with the other posters. I too did councilling, but I also read loads of books about the subject, which helped me to put things into perspective. (Plus, the books are a darn sight cheaper than what I assume to be on-line courses).

Do take time to look at some of the blogs and some of the 'sticky threads' - although some of them might look old, their content is still useful, helpful and relevant.

Keep posting. There's hundreds of years worth of experience from all the people who visit this site.

Best,
JJ