Visits suck

Perhaps its just cos its January and its grim and grey outside but I honestly feel at the end of my rope tonight.
I'm fed up of turning the other cheek and pretending that everything is fine.
I am struggling to cope financially and tbh the fact that my ex is raising my daughter's former best friend is leering hugely in my mind.
My older daughter is upset cos he hasn't bothered to contact her(she always has to initiate it)and she feels he isn't bothered- how can I pretend that he cares?
He is taking younger daughter out on Sat and I'm dreading it- I've tried to be really upbeat about it with her but I am incensed that he's pratting about playing happy families for the day then bu****ing back off to his stepdaughter and partner- the future just looks so bleak at the mo.
Lost the plot tonight.

Hugs Teecher,

You'll have plenty of these ups & downs (the downs are tough, I know) BUT keep strong - there is light at the end of the tunnel.

When I feel low, I do something for me, even if its something small, like have a bath or lose myself in a film (Kill Bill worked for me )

But best tonic of all (except the one in your Gin) is having a good rant here with your wiki friends

Take care

WR

Yeah, it's probably because it's January.
I'm not at the end of my rope.
I've let go of the rope altogether.
It's the best place to be.
I never pretend or put on a smiling face unless I want to and I just say what's on my mind now be it to the ex or anyone else..
Sooo liberating!

LW

Sorry to hear you are feeling really down tonight.I haven't got any great words of wisdom to cheer you up but you might not feel so alone if I tell you that I'm also feeling rock bottom tonight.I've been trying hard to believe everything will be ok for my future but I went and looked at some possible houses that I may be able to buy,if I go into my savings and really push myself financially,and they were all in areas I'd hate to live in and I feel quite bitter about the whole thing.
Hopefully things will improve for both of us xxxx

waves from the bitter barn

Wish I could make it feel better but ((((hugs))) anyway.

GMS

Just a simple message life could be worse you could be still be with the *****.this helps me when I feel down,its hard at times but I think and hope things happen for a reason and these shallow,morally challenged rats will get what they deserve in the end.
Good luck in the future and don't let them get to you.

I hope you're feeling a little better today. You and the children are all being so brave and it's only human to feel it's all too much sometimes.

You have to believe that it gets better. Yes, just the act of telling others how you feel usually helps you feel not so alone.

It's particularly hard when you know the people involved(the OW was my friend too) and heartbreaking for you to watch.

Whenever you feel this way just post on here and let us know. Someone will alwys get back to you.

Have you thought of a blog or keeping a journal? It helps a lot of people; perhaps you would try it?

(((((Big hug))))