OMG someone help before I go insane!!

oh Lou ((((huge hugs))))
What a MONSTER!!! You are amazing to have coped with all this for so long!!! I agree with what the others have said - TOTALLY ignore him! I find it almost beyond belief that he is insisting on dealing only with you regarding the kids - what a flaming cheek after everything he has put you thru!
Tell your doctor tomorrow how much pressure he is putting you under and how desperate he is making you feel - perhaps your GP may be able with the police to make him back off.
Keep going girl, we are all right behind you ,
Jo xxx

I can't believe what this man is putting you through. All kids have accidents and all kids have nits. All mum's forget things at times. My S forgot his coat when he went to stbx's on Sat even though I put it ready for him and told him 500 times to put it on (I hide in the kitchen when stbx picks them up lol)
scan read the emails to check there is nothing important in them. Don't digest anything that isn't genuinely important just file the email away for future reference.
We all know how easily head lice get passed around. Here's me wishing a certain someone catches them
Keep strong

Lou

I totally agree with the others, ignore him.

What he says is his problem, if he wants to act like an ar*e that is his problem (and his new partners!) how you react to what he says is within your remit.

You need to take back control for your own peace of mind. You have brought up those children whilst he was working, the caring and nurturing of the family is equally as important as the financial contribution. As he is making no financial contribution YOU are providing both aspects of parenting.

This makes YOU the better person and the better parent so you don't need to take on board any of his old b*llocks. If you refuse to accept his control techniques then he will not be able to control you.

The stuff about the head lice just shows how little he knows about parenting.I don't advocate doing this but I would write to him and tell him that you have done everything possible about the head lice and maybe he should go to the Judge and get him to make an order prohibiting the lice entering your children's hair.(But then I am a feisty redhead who won't take sh*t from anyone!).

Be strong X

Lou
Another thought. If he's so concerned about head lice can't he get his arse to the chemist and do it himself. Tell him to get his own statements from schools etc and to sod off unless he pursues it through a solicitor. Don't waste any more money pandering to his unfounded whims.
You sound like you are doing a wonderful job.

(((Lou)))

I don't know why he is doing this. To show his new bit of skirt what a caring parent he is? To feel better about hurting you? It's irrelevant.

Just ignore all you can. If he thinks having headlice is a sign of neglect he couldn't be more wrong. It's well known that lice aren't attracted to dirty unwashed hair and headlice in schools is endemic.

Stay strong. If he wants to carry on being a pillock that's his prerogative, but if his present family life is so idyllic I'm surprised he has time.