court pending

I have my court date this Wednesday,and am a bit apprehensive to say the least. just wanted some advice on what people think would be fair.

were married for 24 years, I am 49, he is 54.we have been separated for 3 years now, two teenage children, 14 and 16. the divorce dragged out by my ex, ignoring letters, not disclosing true figures, insisting on expensive house valuations etc.

in March 2009 He was made redundant and received a 12k redundancy payment ( tried to hide from me) whilst he was still living under the same roof, but seperately. he finally left the family home in July 2010 taking up residence in our first home, which we were previously letting. he made no payments for our children when he left in july, despite the redundancy money, started paying when he was employed in the following march,(The payments were not in line with csa guidelines, approx £40 a week under paid) and payments were often missed and sporadic. ( have now contacted csa)
we have 2 houses, mine valued at 180k, mortgage 168k and his 110k, mortgage 90k,i have paid repayment mortgage since he left, he has paid interest only. He has 2 pensions ( stated as minimal on ancillary forms) eventually valued at approx 100k, i have No pension, we were to use his pensions to retire with, we also have a cash sum of 120k (Sold a house we had bought abroad)
when he left the family home he took a lot of items from the home ( the best of everything, there was no negotiating, he just took it, including every tool we hade aquired, was not left with 1 screw driver, screw or nail! AND ALL THE FAMILY PHOTOS

I was looking for 30k cash equiv for the pension (or 50/50 pension share) and 60% from the equity, total 102k, ( this would reduce my mortgage to an affordable 110k, paying off a loan of 50k, used to by overseas prop) and give me 30 k for a pension leaving 22k to pay of 7k car loan, 1700 bank loan, and provide a future for my children, he is not willing to offer more than 91k, states he has spent the 12k redundancy ( how he spent it varies on each ancillary relief form). his last bank statements showed balances of up to 7k in credit at times ( this is a normal current account, and showed withdrawals of up to 5k over a period of 5 months! my bank balance was 1200 overdrawn!. he was in the army for about 4 years, over 20 years ago, yet mentions this on numerous occasions on the form ( HE WAS NO WAR HERO)

any advice appreciated as what would possibly be awareded as fair

Hi,
I've not got my maths head on tonight but both figures (91k and 102k) would seem to be in the right area, and both could be considered as fair, remember that fair covers a range and is not an absolute.
With regard to pension etc could you use the 30k to pay off more capital from the mortgage and build a pension pot and downsize later on ?
You are quite close 11k is the sort of sum (and much more) that could very quickly be swallowed up in legal battles.

LB

Thanks for your advice. I was wondering will the judge look at all the money he has in his account and the fact that he has constanly underpaid any child payments, I was reluctant to go to CSA as he was making voluntary payments albeit under csa guidelines and sporadic, as i knew if i approached CSA he would instantly go self employed and claim he earns under the tax bracket ( he has always used this as a threat to me!)
I need to know that i can pay off any large debts, and Yes probably would reduce the mortgage a bit more, not sure what i would do with a sum of 30k cash equivalant, but it would be invested for my and my childrens future, I know i cant rely on my Ex for this