mediation round one

Thinking about all this now and maybe this separate room thing is a blessing in disguise..if she is just going to flat out disagree and not have to engage with me to compromise or come to agreement then I guess I can gain some comfort that if it does go back to court I am likely to be awarded what I originally requested!

Update on this.

My sol wrote to hers and I followed it up with a text. Thought it be best to be 100% transparent so there was NO misunderstanding or miscommunication on what I am after contact wise. I would like to attempt everything before mediation/court agro.

She came back saying she was all for agreeing without mediation (???!!) and asked what I suggested??! All that aside she put the old guilt trip on about what I did to her (she kicked me out but re-wrote history since I met my new partner) sob sob.
I think this was an attempt at the guilt spanners to soften me up.

I have put forth my midweek and alternate weekends (suggesting sat-mon)..thing is I believe she is going to come back with "I have spoken to the children and they say they are happy with things the way they are".
I dont put it past her for a second that she would ask the children what they want, and that they WOULD say they are fine with it the way they are. Because they say things to me like 'I want to see you more Daddy but don’t want to hurt mummys feelings’ or ‘mummy will miss us too much if we sleep over tonight but we want to’ They are well aware of not wanting to upset her or feel guilty. These are the same guilt trips she used on me for 13 years. 1st mediation appt is set for week after next so there some time to negotiate before then (she appears dead set against mediation and views it as an extremely hostile move from my side.)
How can I disagree with her about putting the kids in the middle, yet still get an agreement??! I don’t want them dragged into a mediation interview, which I fear she will resort to if she sticks to the above. They don’t deserve that..