Can he take my childrens home?

Hi, not sure I am posting in the correct place, apologies if not.

I had 3 children when I met my ex partner and lived in the property in question for around 2 years under housing association. When we decided that he would move in we bought the property. I put the deposit down and we also had a discount off the price as I was already a resident. The property is in equal shares, he pays the mortgage and I pay the bills. We had 3 children together who are now 5, 5, (twins) and 3. We did have to extend our home to accommodate the 6 children. My older children are now 19, 16 and 12 all still at home.
The first 2 times he left us I did take him back but after the 3rd time it was too much, the emotional abuse was too much. The children were very unsettled and needed stability.
He has always paid only the mortgage and I have always paid all the bills including everything for the children.
He is now wanting me to sell our home as he wants to be off the mortgage, I am on benefits at present so am unable to take on the mortgage. I have offered to pay half the mortgage and carry on with all the bills etc as I always have although I know this will be very difficult. He seems hellbent on making things as difficult and I dont know what to do next. He doesnt pay anything for his 3 children and hasnt since he left and I havent asked for anything as he has been paying mortgage. He is working full time and living at his parents house.
There is around £50,000 equity in our home but I would like to keep the home for the sake of the children and their stability.
Even though I have not contributed to the mortgage I have paid my share and probably more over the years. He doesnt see the children much in fact I have asked him to see more of them but it seems to be only when it suits him, I wont push them on him.
I am a strong woman and have coped really well over the last few months but this is really started to get me down, all the threats of homelessness for me and my children cant go on.
Please can someone enlighten me, I was hoping not to have to take this to court and try keep in as civil as possible for everyone (plus I am a soft touch) but I feel I am fighting a losing battle
If I have not given enough information then I am sorry but if you need to know any more then I will be pleased to post.

TIA

jaycee, sorry to read your story, you have obviously tried and credit to you for looking after those kids.

You are a little in limbo land at the present.
The situation of him just paying the mortgage will not continue, for long. It doesnt need to. But its only a name for the money.
Such as when you were together, saying he paid mortgage I paid bills, doesnt really matter, it was money into a pot to keep you in a house.

You need to look at a situation which will continue.
That is basically he should be paying you 25% of his net earnings as CM.
If you want to claim for SM or ancillary releif for now thats for you to find out and research.

If the children are still at home it is likely you would stay put as its not going to be feesable to find a home to house you.
So dont worry about losing a home, sometimes ex's dish out a lot of threat to unerve you.

Thankyou for your reply.
I agree that he wont be paying the mortgage long term which is why I have offered to pay half if not all of it if need be, he informed me that I was not able to make the payments as he wouldnt allow it... I have spoken to the bank and they say that I can. I have little knowledge of property laws and he knows it and I think he has just been trying to back me into a corner until I just give up, which is something I am not prepared to do.
I am just trying to do what is best for my children, each and every one of them, they have all been through so much it hurts that he can try and turn their world upside down again.
I have had many threats of losing the home and him taking custody of my children ( which I know will never happen given the circumstances)
He thinks he can just walk out of the family home with no reason, well not that he has told me a reason, and come off the mortgage as it doesnt suit him anymore. It angers me that he thinks he can just throw aside his responsibilities like that and walk away.

Hi,

This is just a update really but I do have a question...
My ex is not going to force a sale so at least we have a home for now. I am now paying all the mortgage payments from Aug 2011 onwards. He is just paying maintenance for his 3 children. I am severing the joint tenancy too. He is still working and consequently putting into his pension whilst I am unable to do so whilst looking after the family, could I ask for a higher percentage of the FH? Also what would happen if he lost his job? Would I still be able to carry on paying the mortgage without any sort of guarantor (sp?). I am feeling slightly better about the situation but there are still so many unanswered questions.

Thankyou.

What is it with the biting comments today!!!!!

Was that comment a joke or was it meant to offend?

Having just read this thread with interest im a bit confused as to your comments DRSOX?

Elaborate please.