not a very merry christmas

Not the best of days,had the children for all of 2 and half hours at my mums house as the ex wouldn't let me see them at our old house as her new man was there.is it just me because I know if I was him I would have said to her he's the kids dad,I've only recently appeared on scene so ill make myself scarce on Christmas morning at least.My thoughts are she is a heartless cow and he must be a complete tosser.
How can people like her manage to justify her actions in her own head.They are taking them to see her mother tomorrow in south coast.And as I'm going back offshore on wed I will not see them till middle of January.For the last 12 weeks if done everything to try and keep calm for the sake of the kids but after today I'm seriously thinking about moving away as I
can't see any positive outcome,I miss my children but for my own weelbeing going away I think is what I. need to do.
I only live for my twice weekly visits with my kids,which are great but I feel myself is all that I look forward too.I don't want to be a part time dad it kills me I used to spend all my time when not at work just being with themplaying,talking and just being together and she knows this killing me.
Do I just move and start again as life shouldn't be this hard or painful surely.

I'm sorry you are having such an awful time.People can be very thoughtless and selfish.
However I really don't think leaving your children to start a new life would make you happy.You sound like a sensitive,caring Dad and I'm sure you would have lots of guilt and regrets if you did that.
Wishing you peace,love,Livinginhope xxx

My ex cheated on me (or tried!) for all our married life. I forgave him all the time thinking it was best for the kids.

Now he is living with someone because I finally would not have him back. He has decided to have nothing to do with the kids, late teens. His loss.

BUT - I know the kids miss him. Build a new life for yourself but include your kids and get a contact order so you have some power back.

Welcome to Wikivorce, although Im sorry you have a need to be here.

Christmas is a particularly difficult and emotive time time of year, especially when you are separated from your children. The time you did have with your children this Christmas Day, while not long enough, was I hope, memories made to carry you through the next few days until you see them again.

I can't answer why your x2b decided that you couldn't come to the house to see your children, only she will be able to justify her actions.

As for moving away, hold fire with any evasive action until you can think more clearly, and the dust has settled. To act in haste now could mean a lot of heartache in the future. Use your time offshore to think through your options properly, which could include family mediation to work towards resolving the issues around your time with the children.

Life shouldn't be hard or painful, but sadly, it often is, but the pain will ease with time, hang on in there.