Thank you for info J.
I had a chat with daughter this evening as
'directions hearing' is coming up soon and I wanted to find out what she
wants to happen re
contact.She said 'I don't
want Granny and grandad to even write to me any more or give me presents
from the pound shop that they expect thank you letters for.They just go on
about me going to stay with them. I don't want to see my dad any more
either because it is so boring and I want to be with my friends. He just
sleeps or goes on and on about how much he misses me and then wants me to
push him in his chair and he is
too heavy.'
I said 'But what
about your cousins you want to see them again don't you?'
she replied
that they only ever met up for 2 hours and her and her aunt and cousins put
her under pressure to see her Dad more and go to stay so 'that's no fun
either.'
I explained that the courts would probably expect her to see
her father and asked her how we could make that better.
She said she
wants a friend along on visits so she is not bored and said 'How old do I
have to be before I can say I don't want to go any more?'
Grand
parents objected because she had a friend along last time.
Will courts listen if she does not want direct contact?
From what i
have learned on here they seem to go for
contact or working towards
contact.
I want to get her what she wants but also want this to be
over so that we can get on with our lives. She has an important year ahead
at
school.
Are they likely to get
parental responsibility when he is mentally incapacitated? I am worried
about how much disruption
grandparents could cause in our
lives if they get this on his behalf.
I want to get the best for her
but do not want this to drag on. Can anyone give me advice on the best way
to get this finished at the next hearing, while getting as close to what my
daughter wants as possible?