Here are some of my tips as suggested, which I hope help others:
1. Prepare a Skeleton Arguement with the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 in
mind. Keep to the points and be specific what you want and why you disagree
e.g. I am requesting a Mesher Order as I have a dependent child however the
s2x wants an immediate sale of the
FMH.
2. Make sure you get a court bundle and
read all of the documentation you supplied over and over again, as the
skills of a Barrister is to find faults and minor errors, which is exactly
what he did in my case and made a mountain out of a mole hill
.
3. Prepare your questions in advance
and write them down. Using the page numbers of the court bundle to refer to
your evidence or what you are questioning, the Judge and both parties need
to refer to the bundle e.g on page C.4 of bundle you have ????? can you
explain your reasons for this?
4. When the other party is in the
stand and answering questions from their own Barrister, start writing what
you want to question about their answers, if you havent already got that
question prepared.
5. As hard as it is, dont go into to much
detail, nerves and waffling seen to go together when under pressure. Just
answer the questions and stick to the facts.
6. Take absolutely
every bit of evidence with you if its not already in the bundle. E.g. I was
asked what have I done about obtaining full time employment? I could and
did answer but didnt have the proof to back it up. TIP Everything you say
should be backed up with evidence!!!!
7. Just be yourself and
answer as honestly as possible, and most of all try and stay calm
8. At the end of the hearing the judge
asked me what it was that I wanted, as well as adjusting the figures in the
schedule of assets and advised me what figures were being removed MAKE SURE
you tell the judge what it is that you want, e.g.
pension sharing etc,
Costs....whether you want the other side to be liable for your costs and
reasons why. Or that you agree each party are responsible for there own
costs.
Basically, when you are preparing for court write
everything down you want to ask the other Party/Judge. Whether you use all
of it, is a different thing but at least it's there and can be referred to
if you need to.
I hope this helps...and bear in mind all the
money you are saving for just one or two days in your life to move on. IT
REALLY is WORTH IT!!!
Good luck to all
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