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Dec 31
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sorry to be gloomy but feeling down. 18 weeks since he left and i have been up and down. i went for a walk in the snow alone tonight and i just felt really sad. i cant decide wether i am grieving for him or our marriage or our future. i miss him but was he just a habit after 20 years. i dont know the answers to these questions. i think the hard thing for me was that we got on well until he met this ow and his head was turned. i had no choice in the matter he was the one who decided we were at an end, yet he says if she had not come along we would still be together. i have read on here about how men rarely leave even if they are unhappy unless they have someone else to go to?? just trying to sort my head out.
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Boo2u21964
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| December 31, 2009 | ||
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and it will be sorted when its ready I guess, bit like mine.Im lucky....I got my little grandson here...ok hes asleep...but I look at him and think.....HES the loser......he sees him course he does....but is he here now with us......nope....and thats his lose....but hes got a new woman...so we know whats important dont we??? | |
Jollyrocket
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| December 31, 2009 | ||
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hello there I have felt sad recently too and lonely - despite having had a long time free of these feelings. I think this time of year is bad for these feelings - they creep like tinsel around us - but it does get better. I dont miss him anymore - nearly 2 yrs later, miss occasionally being part of a couple - but am ok most of the time. You will be too. Being thrown aside and made to feel like rubbish, brings us down but ultimately our true self restores us and our own self reemerges. Dont think my ex is with anyone else now, the woman he left me for I think its over. So no lasting happiness for him. No one could or should feel good about causing another such hurt. I dont believe that anyway relish the snow and the good things you have in your life, and when feeling really bad - list all the bad and disgusting things you dont miss - its a great game - beats charades hands down!!! xx |
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JackieH
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| December 31, 2009 | ||
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This will be another 'first' over so look at this time of year as having overcome another hurdle. like you i had no idea anything was wrong until he suddenly changed his attitude towards us (which coincidentally was when he metoh). i still get bad times but once I found out that he was having an affair I just didn't want to be with him anymore. I was able to make the decision for him and pre-empted the ow's decision too. If you were commited to your partner, mariage and family it is hard to leave the life you had in the past. But that is what it is now the past and gone! We will recover, it is not easy and takes as long as it takes. Happy New Year and a new decade. |
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Pheonix2yk9
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| December 31, 2009 | ||
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(((((((Robinson))))))) you will get through this of that I can promises I am 8 mths into my journey and I think less of my ex, she lingers but I feel she is having less of an impact on me everything takes time and in time it does get better take care Pheonix |
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Mitchum
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| January 01, 2010 | ||
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(((((((((Robinson))))))))) Imaginary hugs don't come anywhere close to healing the hurt but just to let you know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you in a far better place long before 2010 is out. Keep blogging and letting go of your feelings. Take care of yourself - 'because you're worth it!' Mitchum xx |
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startagain
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| January 02, 2010 | ||
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(((((((roberson)))))))) I have spent the last two days in the loft clearing out my stuff of twenty years most of which I took tour tip. Three cardboard boxes and a couple of bin bags of clothes are now stacked ready to go when I finally leave the family home on friday. We finaly told my youngest (6) that I would be move out at end of the week she satin my knee and sobbed her heart out and five months on from finding the text message the trears were unlocked for me too. Thoughts are with you hope you will be dancing in the snow this time next year with not a care in the world. |
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soozni
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| January 03, 2010 | ||
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here, here! betrayal must be one of the hardest of all reasons for breakups. Allow yourself time to be depressed, angry, and all those other emotions associated with the end of a relationship, time does heal, and I am allowing myself indulgence in these emotions and it does seem to make it easier to get through when I do and I know in time I will be better, I will heal, but for now, I'm going with the flow. Its not easy, its not enjoyable, but unfortunately it is necessary, and as 'startagain' say, this time next year you will be dancing in the snow! take it easy on yourself, and go with the flow, we will all come through and come out the other side, better, stronger and happier people! xx Sooz |
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julesm
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| January 04, 2010 | ||
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Hi Robinson My OH didn't leave me, I left him. It has been a year and I am in a much stronger place now than I was back then. I thought we had a good marriage. We had our problems but then what married couples don't have fall outs occasionally. It was in August 2007 that he met his "friend" and then everything changed. He became a different person after that and our marriage fell apart. Think of yourself now and what it will take to make you happy. Best Wishes Jules |
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