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Feb 06
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why oh whyPosted by caz2011 in depression loneliness, dealing with emotions |
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Why when you just think you are turning the corner you see somethink and it just hurts you. Hubby has never had face book and he has now, i looked at his friends list and his ex is a friend the one that put him in the gutter where i picked him from. Ive blocked him so wont pop up any more but the hurt i felt was awfull wish it would just go away.
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male1968
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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although you were presented with a problem, took you no time at all to implement the solution....onwards and upwards |
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caz2011
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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thanks male just diidnt expect the hurt feeling i got more annoyed because he slept with her at the beging of our relationship and i stuck by him oh never mind | |
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raybird
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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remember my bloggs about face book? my friends daughter found out all his dirty little secrets, when the affair started (3 months before he left) who she was, everything, ive learnt its best not to look, and dont, let them get on with their sad lives .now trying to stop my son snooping on them though. it hurts likes hell when its on there in black and white/ colour whatever. i learnt today that facebook is the biggest reason for relationship breakdowns, i thought tell me about it (((big hugs))) xxxx | |
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scaryclairie
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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oh Caz, it is just a shocker when you think you are getting your head round things and something unexpected like that hits a raw raw nerve. Sometimes it takes longer than you think to recover from the shock. (But I hope not.) Hugs | |
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Canuck425
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Facebook is lousy in so many ways. I work in software and greatly admire what they have done from a business perspective. They're geniuses. Socially though, I really do think that it is an awful tool. Not just from a marriage perspective but also from an every day perspective. The number of people that are so active on FB and never out there with real people is astounding. So - ignore FB, use it wisely, and get out and on with your life with real people! |
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scaryclairie
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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You mean like we are doing on wiki!!!? | |
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caz2011
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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ha ha scary, fb does cause alot of problems for some people its how you use it i will block them all and i be fine x |
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julesm
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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Hi It's not just Facebook that is to blame for relationship breakdown. It's the new technology we use, mobile phones, the Internet, etc. All these had a major factor in wrecking my marriage. My husband went from someone who hardly used a mobile to taking it everywhere with him, even to the toilet! Most of the meetings he engineered with his female friend were done with the use of a mobile. That doesn't include all the occasions he used the computer to chat with this person online. Still that is all water under the bridge for me now. I have become s stronger person since then. Best Wishes Jules M |
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flowerofscotland
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caz2011, Some wise old Wiki (and he knows who he is - but he is not really old!) pointed out the FB is the work of the devil. This I 100% agree with. FB was the start of my real problems when the first OW was on the prowl for long lost friends, when she had nothing better to do! I agree with Jules M that technology plays a big part in where some of us find ourselves today, too much too young or too fast or too disposable, however you want to put it! I had to listen to some of the young ones at work today going on about how FB is a way of life and you just have to accept it or if you don't you are the strange one! What would our forefathers think of this rubbish? Call me old fashioned, but seriously if I had wanted a part in Eastenders, I would have applied for it in 1985, it just seems that FB is now the real living and breathing Eastenders, except it is real life and real families who are getting hurt. Caz2011, do yourself a favour, cancel your account and go out there and prove to him that the best revenge is to live the best life possible. Take care for now FoS x |
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Canuck425
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Yes my wife went from hardly using the technology to actually sleeping with her phone beside her. It's been very weird to watch this transformation. | |
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Nanny18
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| February 08, 2012 | ||
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(((((Caz))))) The OW found my H on fb. He told me i didn't know the person he was seeing, but 5 minutes after leaving he changed his status to in a relationship with and everybody could see. I blocked it after an hour of watching our so called friends liking his status. You keep him blocked Caz and carry on moving forward. xxxx |
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Young again
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| February 08, 2012 | ||
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(((((Caz))))) It is sad and can be particularly hurtful to be reminded of what once was - but having made his choice and revealed what he is really like as a person and unworthy of you, please don't change yourself to suit his new idea of life. If you use and like facebook then continue to do so. Your stbx may or may be intimate with his ex, he may or may not be cheating on her or with her or on/with another bloke or a sock - it's his life and only his life; there is no need for any of that to be a part of yours. Be yourself - do what you do, the way you like, as you want to and let people take you for who you are. You will find that life becomes better and better without him. Take care YA |
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Mitchum
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FB has obviously become one of the cheapest pick up sites on the planet! Which is sad, because so many families use it to stay in touch when some of the family live across the world. Many wiki members are also friends on FB, so it helps to cement friendships too. But it's clearly split so many families apart even here in wiki, so multiply that worldwide and it's a huge social impact beyond imagination. Block this man out of FB, out of your life, everything. Total wipeout. Concentrate on new friends, new experiences, new memories, a new life. xxx |
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caz2011
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THANK YOUS i wwas going delete fb i dont rely on it r need it really but my son posts pics on of my grandchildren and they help me through the days at times i find myself on my laptop alot at the moment for suport as i have know friends to go shopping r coffees with they stayed with him any way thinking possitive when i start work meet new people and get out there i be fine. I wouldnt know where i would be without you guys at this point in my life so thank yous all xxx | |
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ascatfish
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Facebook cost me my marriage, on the other hand without my friends on there (who are all over the country and who cant be with me in person) I would have cracked up - it has its good and bad points. Fact is facebook would not have cost me my marriage if my husband was a good person. | |
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