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Feb 05
2012
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One email sets me off...Posted by Canuck425 in my day today, dealing with emotions, children, bad day |
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I was having a very good weekend and then Sunday night I received an email from my stbx. It was very nicely worded and very cordial but the content has me spinning. I have been pushing for 50/50 split in parenting the kids. She is not in favour of this as she thinks that having the kids switch houses every week is too disruptive. So again, she asked me to think about what the best situation would be for the kids. I am 100% committed to doing what is best for them but I do think that having me < 50% of the time is not in their best interests. Second, she asked me again to think about finding a job in California so we all can move there. I am so strongly against this that it is difficult for me to articulate. With so much change going on for my kids I just cannot see how this could be good for them. Parents splitting, their world changing, why would we move them 18 hours away from their school and friends?! So no, I won't consider that. Yes, I have a note into my lawyer and I will be prepared...
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flowerofscotland
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| February 06, 2012 | ||
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Hi Canuck425, Never lose sight of your objectives and goals, do what you feel in your heart of hearts is right for the children, nothing more, nothing less. You are a one in a million Dad, who will always have their best interests at heart. Fight for what you believe in, do not let your STBX railroad you into making decisions that may suit her needs and lifestyle, but not those of your family, the real and bigger picture. Dig deep, find the strength and stand by your convictions! Take care for now FoS x |
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freefalling
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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Like FoS says, you sound like a great father and you have identified that this is a deal breaker. You may be able to compromise on finances and splitting of assets, but I like you, regard my daughter as my top priority. So when it comes to her well being, financial and emotional security - there is no compromising! Take care. | |
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Patrick1968
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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FoS is on it. DO NOT give in to this. You are no more or no less important in your childrens development. SHE put you in this place so she can do one. She's got out of your relationship and it looks like you'll end up paying her for that. Those are her wins but it stops there. She needs to wake up she can't have it all go her way. Your ex is doing exactly what mine threatened to do..she had a weird notion that I would roll-over HELLO its not going to happen. Shes going to get her divource, she wants to fly off to California tell her you'll have a sleeping bag for her when she wants to come back and visit the kids. DO NOT GIVE GROUND ON THIS. | |
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scaryclairie
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| February 07, 2012 | ||
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Isn't it strange how they can pull the 'what's best for the kids' cat out of the bag to manipulate what you do but do all this harm to the children by their own actions. I think she has done enough harm already. Moving? She doesn't know what she wants does she? The unhappiness is within her. A move to California is as unlikely to work for her as a move out of the marriage. And then you and the kids will have had the further upheaval on top of all the heartache, and you won't have your support systems around you....and all for nothing. I am so sorry you are having to go through all this - and especially your kids. sc | |
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